should your husband let you know where he is if he goes ?

Question

if your husband says he is going to the store and then decides to go to a friend's house after leaving the store, should he call you and tell you?

Answer 1

He should show the decency to tell you he is stopping somewhere after work, so that you know he hasn't had a mishap of some kind.

He doesn't necessarily need to tell you where he is stopping unless there is a history to cause lack of trust. It is common decency in a marriage to let your partner know who you are stopping to see, but not essential.

I hope this helps a little.

Answer 2

I think its a matter of being considerate . I don't think you should have to account for every minute of everyday . But if its about dinner time or you know your wife is expecting you back in a short while , then I think you should call and let her know that you will be gone longer than you expected so she does not get worried . My ex husband went out for cigarettes and ended up in North Carolina . Didn't come back for 3 months ! I freaked out calling hospitals , the police , even though he might have been murdered . Okay , that is not some thing a normal person would do ( but its true ) . Both people need to think of the other persons feelings . How would you like it if you was expecting her home and she didn't show up for hours ?

Answer 3

Hi, Firstly i think to be fair to him and not be over possessive or come across as insecure you need to allow him some space. If he decides to go to a friends after he's been to the store i think thats fine. If he's planning on being there a long time or if it gets to the point that the time is ticking by then he should let you know.

And its not about being under the thumb as some husbands will proberly try and say, its about letting you know he is ok and he is safe. That you dont need to worry about him. Men like to think that they are the tough ones in this world, but these days NO ONE is safe. Its just a matter of knowing he's ok.

Answer 4

Wouldn't he want to know why you are taking longer to get home if you did that? It isn't a matter of being $#% whipped. It is just being respectful so you don't worry about each other. I sit and worry about my BF getting in a car accident if he doesn't show up on time. I call him, he calls me when we're going to be late. Who cares if he goes to a friends house or somewhere else? I don't. I just want to know he is safe and still in one piece.

Answer 5

Yes so that you don't worry about him and also are aware that he will be gone for longer than it takes to go to the store. This is called responsible and mature behavior.

Answer 6

Yes. It is common courtesy. My husband and I both let each other know when something is going to hold us up longer than planned. That way my crazy mind is not thinking the worst and calling local hospitals!

Answer 7

yeah it's the right thing to do. i tell my hubby if i decide to go somewhere and he does the same! i wouldn't want to worry needlessly if he's been in an accident and killed or not! it's common curtisy, like i see a lot of other people stated

Answer 8

If it's going to be a while, then yes. If he's only stopping by for a few min, then it's not necessary to call.

Answer 9

the courteous thing to do would be to call you and tell you that he decided to stop in at so-and-so's house. Or call from there if he doesn't have a cell.

How would he feel if you did it to him?

Answer 10

Not if you trust him. He's a grown up and does not need a mother. He needs his wife.

If he's gone a long time, it would be nice of him to call and tell you where he is, but not a necessity.