Counsellors do not seem to care
2007-02-26 08:43:42 · 8 answers · asked by oceanstarrgirl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I really wish I could be there for you.
I love listening to people (well, as long as they're talking about "real" stuff).
I'm really surprised to hear from your experience that the counsellors you've met don't seem to care. That's a bit saddening. Didn't they choose those jobs because they cared??
Are you a student? Perhaps you could go to a university psychology department, and find a way to meet some psych. students. Maybe they have "counselling" by students, for students. Perhaps they will care more than the counsellors.
Or hey, come to think of it, maybe you could try some various support groups (substance abuse, cancer, etc.). Maybe you could ask them if they knew of any "Listening Groups", or anybody you could talk to...
(Actually, if there's no such thing, I think such a group would be a great idea to start. A group just for people who needed someone to talk to and be listened to...)
Hey, this made me think of another idea. It might be slower, but it could still possibly work. You could try volunteering to listen to someone else who's going through difficult times... and then after that, they'd probably be very willing to listen to you!
Some crazy ideas, I know. I wish I could be more of help.
Now that I think about it, it's pretty tough to find good listeners. Caring, patient, perceptive, nonjudgmental, supportive, high-EQ are not that common, unfortunately. Hope one comes into your life, or that you find one, soon - keep your eyes/ears open!
2007-02-26 09:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever occurred to you that you are wearing the listeners out with all your hang ups? Everybody is not always in the mood to listen to other peoples' problems. Counselors are being paid to do so, casual friends and listeners not. They do have problems of their own too. Start being positive and join into their conversations beside focusing on yourself. It will bring a change in you and a change in their attitude towards you.
2007-02-26 08:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by MaggieSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your grandma a course she want tell nobody she will barely listen to you so your really just getting out what you need to no this is who u should get to talk to you and they give excellent advice because there old and verrrry wise people thats who you should ask
2007-02-26 08:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Porkchop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends, for one. If that doesn't work, try talking to a close relative. If that doesn't work, write a journal.
2007-02-26 08:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad to hear, get to know people, or write your concerns to some online counseling, i dont know which country you are from perhaps i can help you.
2007-02-26 08:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo answers, where everyone cares.
2007-02-26 08:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by RodneyRowland 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good friend
2007-02-26 08:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
preist
2007-02-26 08:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by dave k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋