I have a friend who is divorced. She is raising a teenage son. She hates men and I think she is trying to turn her son gay. Sometimes when I visit her she has her son dressed in girl's clothes and he's playing with dolls. When I ask her about it, she tells me that he's happier wearing dresses and helping mom around the house than going out and playing with other boys. She said he likes wearing pretty things and she doesn't see anything wrong with it, if that's what he wants. In the magazine rack in the bathroom are Playgirl and a number of gay magazines along with magazines a teenage girl would read. Teen, Sassy, Seventeen, etc. Do you think this is just a phase he's going through?
2007-02-26 08:26:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You start off saying she hates men. If that's true, perhaps she's trying to emasuclate her son so SHE can think she's got a daughter not a male child.
If the son is indeed gay, perhaps she's not "encouraging" his homosexuality but rather "supporting" it.
2007-02-26 08:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by behrmark 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time believing that any parent would leave pornography laying around.But I have heard of it and so I don't necessarily think you are making that up.Though you could be.And you could be exaggerating the situation in order to get a response that you want to get.
With that said, I don't think any parent should force one way or another on a child.Allow a child to grow comfortably as they want.No parent should encourage a child to be gay OR straight.Parenting is about teaching a child how to prepare for the outside world and not about making sure that a child sleeps with and has relationships with people that the parent approves of.Also, trying to make a person gay won't work nor will trying to make a person straight.They are who they are and no amount of encouragement can change that.I should know.I was encouraged to be straight and in many ways even forced to be straight.And yet I am still as gay as I was when I hit puberty.
2007-02-26 08:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force anyone to be gay anymore than you can force anyone to be straight. If she is trying she is doing the same awful and grave disservice to him that many straight parents do to their gay sons, and I feel terribly sorry for him.
You are confusing two things however. You are confusing sexual preference (I want to sleep with bois - or girls if you are female and thinking it) with sexual identity (I want to be an XXX (boy or girl) even though I'm not). You see -- COMPLETELY different things. I for example am gay. I don't have any interest in sleeping with women, and I've had my male lover for 15 years. Very few people guess either of us are gay normally -- but we are - so?
If the boy is gay, he is gay -- if he is straight, then he is straight. Whether or not he crossdresses has nothing to do with which he is -- AND -- nothing his mother can do will change him in any direction. I hope she isn't hurting him though, I've seen too many bois hurt -- usually the other direction.
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2007-02-26 11:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he actual is happier wearing dresses and helping his mom around the house and may be even playing with dolls ,this might mean hes gay but it doesn't mean that she is trying encouraging him to be gay may she is supporting him being gay. if she was trying trying to encourage him to be gay cause she hates men then that would make no since cause if he is gay he will end up being with a man .
2007-02-26 08:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
in the experience that your sons are already gay then you may supply them encouragement to be the way they're. in the event that they're promptly they are no longer going to alter their minds approximately something till they're bisexual. Sexual selection would not could be certain no rely if or no longer adult men are astounding to their mothers and promptly adult men deserve motherly encouragement too. hardship greater approximately being a solid mom on your babies than what their sexual selections are.
2016-11-26 00:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teen boys are curious about sex. I have to agree that she may be trying to emasculate him because of her hatred for men. She is probably trying to hurt the boy's father. Since the boy seems to enjoy dressing female he probably will be a crossdresser. Nothing wrong with that as long as his classmates don't find out. Let me know what happens when he starts dating.
2007-02-27 12:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by debbysfemail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone 'turn gay'. Either they are born that way, or they aren't. He may be straight, may be gay, may be bi. Why do you care? Would he be less of a friend? If you say that, I think he may want to find a new friend, because you are quite a lousy one.
2007-02-26 08:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Busta 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mother cannot encourage a child to become gay, unless the child is gay. End of story.
2007-02-26 08:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If he is gay he is gay...if he likes wearing dresses (which is not the same thing as being gay) then good for her for letting him..
however if this is her choice no his she has a problem...
2007-02-26 08:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you're telling the truth, your "friend" is weird. Why would anyone casually have playboy or playgirl lying around the house? Personally, I think you're yanking our chain with this question.
2007-02-26 08:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋