I give everythig to my husband and do everything for him and it seems like I do all the giving.It's really frustrating cause I give so much for him and get nothing in return,but if I say anything he says well I'm just a bad husband,ain't I.I don't know what I need to do,any ideas?
2007-02-26 08:25:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop doing everything for him. You have to make him appreciate the things you do. He expects you to do those things now it has no longer became a luxury to him but an expectation he requires of you. So stop I gaurantee he will come around.
2007-02-26 08:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he says that he is bad husband just tell him no, but it is frustrating to do everything for him and get no appreciation. He may or may not react in a favorable way. Try talking to him and telling him what problem you have with him and see if he is willing to change, if not maybe you need to walk away.
2007-03-02 16:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut back on the things you do for him. When he comments on the lack of them, just tell him the truth...that you were tired of giving with nothing in return. A relationship cannot last like that forever. He needs to understand that. Relationships are two-way streets.
2007-02-26 16:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and talk to him and explain to him how important he is to you and that you need the same effection you give him. You should both ask eachother what you both need to change to make the marriage work. Muck luck
2007-02-26 16:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to be giving. i have this same problem with my gf. i am always very thoughtful, romantic, and i am a very detailed bf. we are in a long distance relationship and she is very happy with me and how i trreat her. when i ask her to be more thoughtful with me she says that she is a bad gf. i tell her no but i would like to know why she is like that. finally she answered me and told me that the reason is that she doesnt know how to sjow her feelings written, or in details, etc, but that she does adore me, does want to marry me, and her way of showing me she cares is physically. so talk to him and ask him why he isnt like that, the way you want him to be. i hope that i could help. i know that this hurts and it is tiresome but if you get inside him youll see how things work out. :)
2007-02-26 16:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do less. Dont get angry, just do less. You doing everything will only set yourself up for disappointment. He needs to step it up. Let him know calmly until he makes some type of change.
2007-02-26 17:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say "no, but I think we should improve in this area...." Don't place all the blame on him, and say something like "we need to learn to be more considerate to one another and not take eachother for granted." Good luck!
2007-02-26 16:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving. For every action there is a reaction.
2007-02-26 16:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit doing so much, he will start wondering what's going on, then you can let him know he can do it his self, since he doesn't appreciate you doing it for him.
2007-02-26 16:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything? including naughty sex?
2007-02-26 16:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋