My best friend in the whole entire world told me last night she think she might be gay. She's not sure, and I'm not into the whole gay thing. Shes telling me shes having thoughts, but she's so gorgeous, and has had so many boyfriends. I used to have those thoughts she is having now and I'm not gay. I dont know what to do. Should I tell her I had those sexual thoughts ?! How do I tell if she really is gay ?!
2007-02-26 08:17:17 · 6 answers · asked by volleygirl25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Most people as they go through the process of growing into a sexual being, go through many stages of attractions, feelings and emotions. And most people, if they care/dare to admit it have had homosexual thoughts and feelings at sometimes.
The feelings that you and your best friend are experiencing are completely natural and nothing to be affraid of. Just because you feel something doesn't mean you have to ACT on it.. Feel your feeling, and CHOOSE your actions..
Some people never completely decide one way or the other. Life is a journey and the discovery of our sexuality is a big part of the fun...enjoy
2007-02-26 08:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by yutu34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing wrong with being gay. So you're urgency to "tell if she really is gay" has kind of a negative sound to it. Would you stop being friends with her if she were? And her physical appearance and ability to snag guys has little to do with her own sexuality. Just because you're beautiful at every facet doesn't mean that YOU are attracted to the opposite sex.
It's totally normal to have those thoughts, and if you really are her best friend you would support her. I'm not saying that you have to tell you that you had those thoughts too, but you shouldn't try to change her mind. This is just something that will take a lot of time for her to find herself, and as I said before, it is totally NORMAL.
2007-02-26 08:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by c_eckdhal71487 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all you can tell if she is gay by kind of asking her. dont blurt it out, just casually fit it in. you should DEFINITELY tell her, because it will make her feel better about who she is becoming and she will know where you are coming from. make sure though, that you tell her that you are no longer like that and that you still accept the fact that she is now. hey, she might even get over it like you did.
2007-02-26 08:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Meaghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're her friend, then discuss with her the fact you also had those thoughts once and that they are very natural.
it doesn't mean that one is gay, just curious.
who knows, conversation may lead to something very enlightening ~ for both of you :)
2007-03-02 07:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mountain One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your call to tell her or not and as for her being gay....will that change your feelings towards her as a friend? I should think not.....
2007-02-26 08:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explore with her and find out
2007-02-26 08:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋