Is it true that if a man catches his wife cheating, he probably won't care? Because I have been cheating on my husband for about 2 months with a man I know at work. We have sex about 3 times a week, and I also have sex with my husband about every other day. I am very happy with my husband and he is a nice person, and I'm sure that he isn't cheating on me. Today one of my friend's told me that her sister's husband divorced her because she cheated.
I thought it as sort of ok for women to cheat, because men don't really care? Is this true? I don't want my husband to find out and I have been hiding it, but now I am worried he might find out and I don't want a divorce because it's very expensive and I don't want to loose the house. I need some advice, so please tell me what to do! Should I stop seeing the other man, or do you think I can still do it without getting caught and if I do get caught, will my husband be mad about it?
2007-02-26 08:08:49 · 87 answers · asked by Alyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get over yourself lady... you are a slut, did you really need me to tell you that!? Marriage is a sacred instituion and you are wiping your *** with yours... if you had any shred of respect for yourself, you wouldnt whore around with some tosser at work. Maybe you need a vibrator!
2007-02-26 08:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by James J. Wilson 1 · 12⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care that you cheat then why are you cheating. Why didn't you just tell him? I am not try to scare you but all I have every heard is horror stories when a husband catches his woman cheating. If you feel like your husband won't care just tell him. If you want to continue the guy and want it okay for if a divorce happens. Set up a 3 some. Drop the guy b/c for one he has no respect for putting the two of you in that position & 2 you just stated reasons why he ain't worth it. Do you a pros and cons list while waiting to get a std test done and just know that secrets between one person are the only ones that stay secrets.
On a side note you really need to figure out why you cheat and see if it is fixable with your man. If not you need to leave him b/c you are actually punishing him for your wrong doings. It kills a man confidence I believe worse than a womans. Just be careful b/c back in the olden day a man that caught his wife cheating could kill them and walk from it.
2007-02-26 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by BettieRulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not ok for anybody to cheat, husband or wife. You are betraying the voes that you said. If you think your husband is a great person and are still sleeping with him then why are you cheating. Men do care, some might not but deep down if he married you and treats right then he cares.
How would you feel if you found out he was cheating you? Bet it wouldn't feel good. You need to stop cheating and tell you husband and take whatever happens next because you are an adult and chose your own path. Divorce could be his choice but you should have known that before you started cheating.
2007-02-26 08:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by delphina_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a MARRIED woman, you should know that cheating is wrong. You don't have to ask this question, but you are asking it anyway because you just want someone to tell you that it's o.k. to cheat on your husband. Well, guess what? IT'S NOT O.K.! & yes you will get caught sooner or later, yes your husband will be mad & yes he will probably want to divorce you. Also, you shouldn't be staying in a marriage for stupid reasons of divorce being too expensive & losing your house. If you don't love & respect your husband enough to stay faithful to him then YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS BEING MARRIED. period! have some common sense. If your not happy being with your husband, then don't be with him! You shouldn't be F U C K I N G another man on the side. You know the drill.
2007-02-26 08:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'll use your response to my health question from earlier today. I THINK YOU'RE A PSYCHO. Why get married, if you can't stay committed? That was a pretty risky question you asked there. What happens when he finds out, via internet, a friend, or catches you himself? Why cheat if you already know what the consequences are going to be?? Yes, your husband will be pissed off. How would you feel if you were in his shoes? If you found out that he was cheating on you, how would you feel? I think you're a very shallow and self-absorbed person, and I have no idea as to why you got married in the first place??? To cheat on your husband? I feel no sympathy for your ignorance, because you don't deserve it. I say ignorance do to the fact that you don't want to get a divorce beacuse it will cost too much, and you don't want to loose your "precious" house. How about this: I don't want to get a divorce, therefore I will not cheat on my husband. In closing, I leave you with: I THINK YOU'RE A PSYCHO. Good ridance.
2007-02-26 10:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cherise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is NOT okay to cheat! Where did you ever get the idea that it is okay for a woman to cheat? Was that in your marriage vows? And the only reason you don't want to get caught is because you are afraid you'll lose the house in the divorce. That's sick. Tell your husband what's going on, then let him go. You don't deserve a nice guy. What goes around comes around and sooner or later you'll get what's coming to you.
2007-02-26 08:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said there aren't any dumb questions!
If it's so cool - why are you hiding it from your husband? Why is it called "cheating"? What did you actually say in your wedding vows? Do you know what the vow "and stay faithful unto him" means?
OK...let's say reading comprehension is not your best skill.
So let's do the math - if you are not 100% with your husband, you are not a whole wife to him. Sounds like you are 3/5's of a wife.
If you got pregnant - wouldn't your husband be happier if he raised and paid for a child the was really his and not just some guy having his cake and eating it too? Do you really think he wouldn't care if he couldn't say "and that's my kid" with any certainty?
Your nice husband must have done something very bad in another life to be saddled with you in this one.
2007-02-26 08:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with both men. If you're not in love with your husband anymore, and it sounds that way when you said you don't want a divorce because it's expensive and you'd lose the house, that's just not fair to him.
Does the man you're cheating with know that you are married? If so, would you really trust him down the road, knowing that he slept with you while you were married? What's to say he's not going to do the same thing back to you?
2007-02-26 08:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, there is nothing good about cheating. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. Cheating is wrong. You made vowels to him. What you are doing is against God and the law.
Second, if you are unhappy in your marriage, then maybe you need to just end it. See a counselor. Why live a lie. There are plenty of men that will divorce their wives because of infidelity.
2007-02-26 08:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by feather-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to STOP seeing the other man because even though you may not notice it, it is weaking your relationship with your husband. The fact that you are going behind his back and seeing another man shows that your not trust worthy and if he finds out, he would probably get mad. Take sometime to think about the situation and communicate more often with your husband. Take some time to bond with him; maybe take a vacation or have a "date'' out. You took a vow to be loyal and trust worthy to your husband and only him so the right thing to do would be to only be with him.
2007-02-26 08:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie24688 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe your even asking this. Of course he'd care if you cheated on him and if he found out he'd proablyt be hurt and want a divorce. If you don't love him anymore then you need to be honest and tell him. Stop cheating. That's not a way to end a marriage if that's what you are trying to do. Unless stop cheating and tell your husband and if he's a forgiving guy then he'll forgive you and you could possible work on your marriage but he does care that your cheating.
2007-02-26 08:13:46 · answer #11 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋