im just wondering if i had a gay or lesbian friend and i told them that i belive its wrong to act on homsexual needs and feelings but that i accept them being that way would they stil be my friend or would they hate me ?, its like i cant helped my what i belive but i wouldnt want to lose a friend cause of it i even have looked bisexuality up on line and things like gay and lesbain topics more then once i even printed some off. i even wished i was bi before but in a way i wouldnt want to be.
p.s iam a girl.
2007-02-26 07:44:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just incause u all dont know this i do accept gays,lesbains,bisexuals its just that i belive its wrong to act on it so it would bother me if i tryed it cause of curiousity, but i wouldnt till them how how to live there life .
2007-02-26 08:13:23 · update #1
i said it would bother me if i tryed it out of curiousity but i did try it once but i didnt do much to her and im curious to do more with a girl but i would be afraid to do that.
2007-02-26 08:34:46 · update #2
i wish u people would stop acting like i dont accept u cause i do u people are not understanding me .
2007-02-26 08:36:26 · update #3
the people i was talking about are the ones that answers this question so that when they answers this question they will not say i dont accept them
2007-02-26 08:38:32 · update #4
I wouldn't be angry at you -- but I would keep a certain distance honestly - even though I would not sacrifice the friendship. That is because of my own experience in life however. One of the few people who took the view you are taking, subsequently lied horribly about me -- and when confronted admitted it was because she thought "it would help me change." Well, I was never straight, and even if I wanted to change I couldn't -- and honestly it left with a certain distrust of people who say "I don't approve of you but you are my friend."
On the other hand, you mean to be broadminded, and you are being as broadminded as you dare -- and that I accept. Thank you.
Reyn
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2007-02-26 11:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the theory that maximum gays are absolutely bisexual is often attributed to the heterosexual community absolutely. Its depending on the theory that Homosexuality is a call and not at all a organic element. subsequently someone can not be in simple terms gay, they must be bisexual and jsut pretending to be gay. so a recommendations as i comprehend interior the gay community they haven't any problem with it. by its very nature the gay community has a tendency to be extra open and accepting of each kind sexuality and factors of view.
2016-12-04 23:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by anuj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how strong your friendship is. I had a best friend for a very long time who believed that my homosexual lifestyle was wrong...but she loved me. She didn't talk down to me...and she was never rude to my girlfriends. She did hope that at some point I would turn to God and realize I was really straight.
I love her to death and I always will...but we don't talk anymore, because I am a spiritual Lesbian, and turning to God just made me realize that I am who I am supposed to be and God loves me. I'm not a sinner because of who I love.
Something to keep in mind...
If you don't have a problem with gay people, but you thinking acting on it is wrong...you may just want to keep that to yourself if you want to keep your friend. Try to be open minded and have your friends best interests in mind. If being with people of the same sex makes your friend happy, then honestly...where is the harm? And being gay without acting on it is denying who your friend really is. How would it make you feel if the tables were turned? If gays were the majority, and they told you to pretend to be gay because acting on straight impulses was wrong.
Just use your best judgment...talking to someone about their sexuality is a tender subject...and your friend may feel that you have no right to interfere.
2007-03-04 09:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend wold be mad at you, if they truly are your friend and you don't come across as a bigot. As for you, how can you be so set against it but yet still admit you've tried it and would like to try again? Are you afraid that if you follow your curiosity that you may like it and maybe feel like your family/friends/etc wouldn't accept you? If so, its okay, I think most are afraid in the beginning....it's the whole fear of the unknown. Ya know?
2007-02-26 14:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by ejsheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? WHY do you think acting on homosexuality is wrong? If you want to put whatever that reason is before your friends, that's up to you. But me (being bisexual), if someone told me that they think acting on my "needs" is wrong, I would be offended. It depends on the person as for whether or not I would stop being friends with them.
2007-02-26 08:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
True friendship trancends gender. You can be friends with girls like you, boys, lesbians, gays or bisexuals. Each one of you would just have to work harder for that friendship - accept that you have your differences and that you have your own opinions, too.
If they are your true friends, they would accept your for your biases and prejudices, in the same way that you will have to accept them for who they are - and that is homosexuals with feelings and needs, too.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 05:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cheng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, never. if someone has made the personal choice not to accept me for who I am, then they do not truly value me as a person and they have no prevalence whatsoever in my life. I have never experienced homophobia from anyone who is my friend after coming out, but if I did I knew that I would have to be happy with myself knowing that I'm being true to myself without the affirmation of those who clearly don't have to emotional capacity to truly care for me.
2007-02-26 08:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can accept others telling you that acting on YOUR natural inborn sexual orientation is "wrong," then you will get along just fine.
If you can't deal with this, then keep your bigotry and hatred to yourself, and you will make a much better friend. (At least until you grow up to accept people for who they are, with all their diversity and uniqueness.)
2007-02-26 08:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a friendship that would never work. They'll want to talk about their gay sex,love interest just like you would want to talk openly about yours and thaht's where the problem would begin.
And then you have to ask yourself, what kind of a friendship is it really if you guys can't speak openly about your love and sex lives?
2007-02-26 07:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your friend would apreciate you staying out of their sex life since I bet they stay out of yours. You telling them that it is wrong to live their life and love who they want to love will surely seem like judgement. They will not like that too much, and it will probably cause the two of you to distance.
2007-02-26 07:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋