The other day when I came home from work I got the shock of my life. I found my husband and his older sister in the bathtub together giving each other full naked body rub downs. I couldn't believe what I was seeing and became very upset at the sight of this. I demanded that my husband get out of the tub and have some shame. He and his sister both became angry at me. My husband told me that I was over reacting and that he and his sister take baths all the time. They said that they have been doing this for years and find nothing wrong with it. Was I wrong for getting upset or should I allow my husband to continue to take bubble baths with his sister? Help please!
2007-02-26 07:39:37 · 60 answers · asked by mamabag06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My brother and I are both married adults and there is NO WAY that we would ever take a bath together, not even when we were kids past the age of 5! Being naked and touching your sibling is just - EWWWW!!! And if there is nothing to be upset about and it's been going on for years than why didn't you know before that point. The only reason they should be bathing each other is if one is dressed and the other is somehow disabled and needs help.
2007-02-26 07:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first reaction was right. But why are you question your self. Your husband is lien to you. You know just like I know there's something wrong there. He told you they always did that. Why are now just finding out. If he truly believes there's nothing wrong with it then why did he hide it from you. His answer could be; because he was afraid of you over reacting. Then he knows it's wrong. Don't close your eyes on this one. Are you sure she is he's real sister. I would never trust him around children. Your husband and his sister are sick. How can you even ask us if you should allow your husband to continue to take bubble bath with other women so what if she he's sister she still a women. Something more then meets the eye here . If they always do this go ask he's parents or someone in the family. Do not allow him to do this. And go get him some help. I really don't think he going to stop. If you allow this then you might what to join in the bubble bath. I bet sex will go on between you three. And don't believe for one minute your husband hasn't had sex with her. If your totally against this and He will continue he wants you to understand it and live with it. And if you can't get away from him as far as possible like I said I would not trust him or her around children. Somethings wrong. I hope you have a good family you can go back home to. Take care. God Bless. Maybe you can talk to someone in your church or a church. Clevey Chapels are good Church's.
2007-02-26 07:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO...he should not be taking a bath with his older sister. What kind of person is he. They both should be reported to the authorities, and you should immediately file for a divorce. There is no way that two grown people would take a bath together in a bathtub, without touching and fondling each other. The end result would be sex with your own brother/sister, which is crazy. Forget this guy, and give him a divorce. Geeesssccchhhh...of all the crazy things a person could do.
2007-02-26 07:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I am shocked, you must be double shocked.
That is not normal, for sure.
What PURPOSE would he need to take a bath with his sister, and her with him.
What, because neither can get clean without the other washing the other.
Ask him what his reason is for that, just out of curiousity for yourself.
Because there is no reason that will truly make sense.
Incest is illegal. That is a form of incest. I am sure they just didn't get into the bath, because they both decided they needed to get washed up at the same time.
If they have been taking baths all the time, they have been hiding something from you, and it is not just because they are both dirty and need to get washed up and decided to have it together. That much I can tell you.
Remove yourself from his life, if he insists on doing it again, or you are not happy with his answer.
There could be other underlying problems, that might scare the heck out of you, if you find them out.
The fact that they both got angry at you, shows that they don't see it as a problem, therefore, they will find a way to continue.
If you stay with him, get in touch with a proffessional, and get a proffessional answer, because you are going to need some help yourself. That is ashame. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-26 08:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is this disgusting but its sick and perverted. Let me ask a question....is this his blood sister or is this his sister through marriage, I mean like they have no blood relation. That doesn't make it any better but if they were just step brother and sister it wouldn't be as sick but its still a little creepy for me.
I grew up with 5 brothers in the home and if they even by mistake came into the bathroom when I as in there I had a fit and screamed and hollered. First of all your husband and his sister had no right to get angry because they felt you were over reacting and they say they have been doing this for a long time this is truly shocking because I would venture to say that if they are bathing together surely they are having sex with each other. I think this should not be swept under the rug and apparently they have been doing this for a long time and I think that if he doesn't agree to stop taking baths with his sister you should let him go. This sounds like something from Jerry Springer and my heart goes out to you because if I had walked in on this I know I would have lost it and they wouldn't have had to get out because I would have put them out, espcially her, she would not be allowed in my home. This is a terrible situation to be in and all I can do is pray for you but honestly.......if this is the only problem you have with him I would say seek counseling because apparently he has no morales and he needs someone (a professional) to let him know that this is not normal but its actually sickening. Good luck to you but don't let them get away with this and if he does not do what it takes to make you feel comfortable with the situation, walk away, don't expose yourself or children to this, it is a really serious problem.......
good luck
2007-02-26 08:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you are NOT wrong for thinking that, because it is WRONG for him to be taking bubble baths with his "sister". I don't mean to be rude but that is sick & twisted, especially that they are both adults, they still take baths together & massage each other while naked in the bath tub? something is seriously wrong & going on here. Are they having sex with each other? I know it's crazy for you to ask that question, but you need to clarify with your husband that if he is or not, he has to tell you & that this bubble bath with his sister is wrong, it's gross & it's gotta stop.
2007-02-26 08:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very bizarre behavior, and I would not consider it normal or morally correct....I knew a guy who had a fantasy about sleeping with his older sister, and given half the chance he would...
Anyhow, back to you. I suggest couples therapy AND individual therapy. If your husband chooses not to go to therapy, then you go by yourself.
Regardless, I would would separate if at all possible while you attempt to work this out.
PS: if this was a woman other than his sister, I imagine you would consider this cheating, but because it is his sister, it is hard to put into that category....It's actually worse, it's incest...
2007-02-26 07:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YAWN . . . everyone knows that is NOT normal behavior. So obviously this is a fictitious question posted just for the shock and giggle value. I admire your attempt at stereotypical hillbilly humor. Fairly good prank question but like all the questions you post they aren't very original. Your writing style shows talent you just haven't found it yet.
Take a creative writing course and try posting questions that are less obvious and immature. Maybe then you'll get a following and comedic timing. Larry the Cable guy you're not!! But someday . . .
2007-02-26 07:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by briardan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a certain age, it is inappropriate to take baths or just generally be naked around your siblings of the opposite sex. That is normally around the age of about 5. I think that there is some sickness in the family.
2007-02-26 07:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by sbhaddan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong for being upset. A joint brother-sister bath usually ends when the children really begin to understand the differences in their bodies. It might be okay up to puberty even, but into adulthood? That's freaky. Demand he stop or get counseling, there may be something wrong in his past.
2007-02-26 07:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by batscout 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋