well we aint together anymore [if youve read my other question ull no more] but we are friends but he bunns[smokes] weed i no people say its not that bad but its damagin him i can tell and people have told me he has done crack aswell [dont no if this is true] i really love him so i dont want him to become a druggy how can i get him to stop without sounding to pushy and without me and him having a argument last time i talked to him when he was on weed he threatend to stab me and i no it might have sounded like a threat but he is the type of person that will do it and the people he hangs around with how cani get him to stop i dont want him to waste his life
2007-02-26 07:31:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
also beacuse he is well nown some people i dont evan no are threatening me to get to him and i no this has sumthink to do with drugs
2007-02-26 07:42:13 · update #1
noooo i dont smoke it or anything else
2007-02-26 07:44:15 · update #2
Nothing you can do but leave, if you stay you will just suffer. Also most people who just smoke weed are not that violent so he probably is on something else.Wish you lots of luck
2007-02-26 07:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by TazD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off he has to want to quit. You can't help someone who doesn't want help. I was in a similar relationship. He was a totally different person when he smoked, We talked about it he said he'd quit. Well that was a lie he did It behind my back. When I confronted him he would say it wasn't his. Then he came home high saying he wasn't he was just tired. I got out of the situation. One night he turned violent and wouldn't let me leave. Just the look in his eyes was enough for me. I was never so scared. He wouldn't let me leave the house. That morning I left and never talked to him again. Don't be sad. There are more fish in the sea. Don't settle. Life is short. You only live once. Be happy. There isn't nothing you can do if he don't want help. Leave it alone. Focus on your life. It will be ok. I know you love him but you should be happy in love not sad.Good luck!! This happened about 5 years ago. I am now very happy my girl friend and I will be together for 3 years in March. I am getting ready to graduate with an Associates degree in applied science. I will be a dental assistant. You can move on without him don't let hime hold you back.
2007-02-26 15:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by lez23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be his friend. He is going to do what he wants regardless of how you feel about it and if you allow him, he will drag you down with him. It is a personal choice and quitting is a decision he has to make on his own. I work in a hospital where every day people bring people in to get them help for their drug problems. We see the same families dragging the same people back, week after week, month after month, year after year, all the while tearing the family apart because no amount of rehab will help if they don't want to quit. If he wants to do the drugs and threatens you, then the safest thing for you is to distance yourself from him. It sounds harsh, but sometimes the only thing that gets their attention is hitting rock bottom.
2007-02-26 15:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you cant change/help people who don't want to be helped or who don't want to change. Maybe you should call the cops on him and he'll have to go to jail and maybe some kinda drug counseling. Sometimes tough love is the only thing. You cant always help people chick is what I've learned. I went through 2 years trying to push my x to better himself and it never worked cause he didn't want to. If hes threatening to stab you and hurt you like that then you should just drop him and let him go about his business. You cant save the world. And if anything you should be taking care of yourself and stop yourself from talking to people like that. Stay away from that negativity its not worth it.
2007-02-26 15:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First stop being an ignorant ***** and RUN!!!!! Weed has never made anyone stab anyone, thats the damn crack talking. And second, stop being an ignorant *****!!! You love someone that wants to cut you up just for trying to help him. Do you feel all that love coming back to you? I just hope your smart enough to get out before you drop his puppies.
2007-02-26 15:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by crphoto666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you smokin too? OMG!!! Get the heck away from him. If he hits you b/c you asked him to stop he ain't gonna quit. He is not the man you need to be with and he won't quit for you. He's got to want it. You should turn around and run as fast and as hard away from him and leave him alone.
2007-02-26 15:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Amber C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make no mistake about this....you cannot get him off drugs....he is the only one that can do that.....all you can do is refuse to be with him unless he stops....and don't back down from that....if he is make threats on your life when high, he may be doing more than pot and you could end up dead....stay away and understand that you cannot save him no matter how much you might want to....good luck
2007-02-26 15:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. pray lol
2007-02-26 15:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Livin it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋