HELP Please!!?

Question

I found my husband cheating on me with my sister.I am a contiental lawyer and was away on business.I was to be back home on Monday but came back a week earlier to surprise him.And I caught them having sex in my Bedroom.I am frustrated and didn't know what to do so I told them to left.We are married last year July.I don't have any kids but he has two with another woman he has been with b4 we met.They live with their mother and visit often.I only found out yesterday from my mother(my sister lives with her now.Yes my sister lives b4 this happened and is younger than me,she is only 18)that my sister is pregnant with my husband's child.And also my husband has been calling repeatly to say sorry but i disconnect the phone.Right now I'm frustrated and lost and don't know what to do.

Answer 1

(((HUGS)))

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. This is absolutely terrible. The only thing I could suggest is to move to another state. It will be too hard to have to deal with all of this. Don't take your husband back. This is absolutely terrible what he has done to you....of all people, your sister?? I am sure as your sister matures she will realize she did the wrong thing and perhaps one day you all can work through it.

I feel so bad for you. (((hugs))) I can't believe these two people could do something so low.

I will keep you in prayer. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think infidelity among family members is one of the hardest situations to over-come, there being a child will make this double hard. You are not the only person that has had a husband sleep with a sister, or mother or even a child of yours from another marriage. People say blood is thicker than water and your family should be forgiven above all others, well I don't think this is right. At 18 your sister knows right from wrong, she should not have had a physical relationship with your husband any more than he having one with her. You say he has 2 children with a woman B4 you, not an Ex wife, so I assume he does not use protection when engaging in physical intimacy and doesn't care to marry the female he impregnates. Your husband is an idiot for being an adulterer and your sister a fool for sleeping with her brother-in-law and both stupid for not using protection, and to add insult to injury they do so in your home in your bed. If it were me, I'd not answer the phone, I'd get the number changed and unlisted giving it only to the divorce lawyer. I'd sue for the house, but put it on the market the day the papers were signed for the divorce. I'd make it plain to my mother that as long as her "other daughter" resided in her home the visits with her would be done elsewhere or when she was not home. It will be hard enough knowing your sister is unwed and pregnant by a married man but knowing it is your husbands baby will only make the resentment harder to deal with. You need a clean break from everything, if moving is an option I'd make it a reality. Don't let them sugar coat wreaking your life. A so-called friend that sleeps with your spouse is low and spiteful but a sibling that does the same is just cruel.

Answer 3

Well since you are a lawyer file papers for divorce. If he knocked your own sister up then what makes you think he'll change. As long as you have no kids by him. Ditch him ...there is no reason to stay with someone who is just using you. Even if he said he's sorry doesn't make things ok now.

Divorce the cheating dog. Once a cheat always a cheat...there is no reason on god's green earth for you to stay with him.

You deserve a man who will treat you great and not bang your sister when you are outta time. God knows how long this has been going on her hun. Good thing you caught the prick.

Anyways if you need someone to chat too contact me and I'll be willing to listen and help get you through this.

Answer 4

I would stay away from them both, you need time alone to think things over. Keep your chin up. I am sorry to hear this.I would be hurt. Talk to other family or a close friend. If you can't, go see a therapists. Are you sure she's pregnant? You will have to realize that if your sister has this baby that your husband needs to be responsible and help take care of the child. Make sure of your decisions and think things over you can only make the right decision.
Good Luck

Answer 5

#1. You are a lawyer, so you are financially stable
#2. He cheated with your sister, of all people
#3. She's only18
#4. He knocked her up
#5. You don't have any kids with him.
Sooooo....
I don't see your problem. Divorce him and don't look back. An independent woman does not need that kind of man. Surely you have figured this out by now. Good luck.

Answer 6

Walk away with a good lawyer in tow. You don't need this deceipt. Eventually, the wounds will heal with your sister but not for this guy. You deserve better by far.

Answer 7

I'm sorry...... I'm so sorry.
There is nothing that youc an do right now other than to be calm and try to figure out wheter or not you will be able to forgive yoru husband and go to counselling to be able to cope or to give him the boot.

You guys are newlyweds and your sister is barely legal...I say ditch them both!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Good luck

Answer 8

so you forgot to give your husband the attention he really needed to remain yours only huh? too late let him go but learn from this mistake and never never forget to give your husband all the naughty sex you can and more. even phone sex every night while away.. even lunch phone sex from anywhere. Guys need to be naughty keep him happy or make yourself sad. Call me

Answer 9

Go on Jerry Springer immediately.

Answer 10

Leave him!! Why would he go around and mess with your sister...what a loser!!