What would you do?

Question

Last night I went to my father's for dinner w/my husband and son from a previous marriage....we show up and my father generally spends the time w/my son and another grandson. After a while my sister shows up with her 3 other children for dinner. My husband and I have been out all day doing stuff w/my son and playing pool (meaning husband is on his 5th beer by this time). My sister asks for a rate R movie to be changed and my husband stomps out and doesn't come back in for 2 hours. He just sits outside and drinks. Then as it is time to go (7pm and my son and I need to do some work before bed), my husband says just take him home and then come and get me while I stay here. That is over 1 hour worth of driving...when we had been there for 4 hours. He started putting me down in front of my father and son. From there..when my father takes him home, he says he doesn't want to be married to me anymore. That it was my job to come and get him and that he doesn't give a **** about my son because

He isn't family. Then he says that he doesn't care about my school...and that I don't put him first. He insults me over and over again and throws his wedding ring at me. I talk logically with him...and realize he is drunk. But I am getting tired of the fights because he doesn't fight fair...He even said I forced him to marry me. I had nothing to gain but his love (as I am in grad school and am doing fine)...but he just says that I forced him. I heard him puking last night. I don't know what to do...I feel like kicking him out....does he even want to be married. We have been married 4 months now. Dated 1.4 years.

Answer 1

BAby girl, it sounds like it's time for you to move on. Go find you a real man.....It is not going to do anything but drive you crazy trying to make him happy......And if you spend all of your time trying to make him happy you are gonna forget about your son and then your son will resent you. Just my opinion but I would have to tell him to hit the road.

Answer 2

Your husband is struggling, depressed, unhappy, angry or all of the above. Since you don't know why, you can only assume he is unhappy with his life for some reason and is maybe using alcohol to try and smooth things over. It sounds like this is just getting worse. It will probably take a "final straw" for you to do it, but you'll probably need to end the relationship and protect your son unless he recognizes something isn't right. Your son does need to be protected from him and any abuse you or he may suffer. You are in a tough spot, good luck.