Since it seems that many universities don't like this sort of relationship what would you do?
2007-02-26 07:15:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
If you've truly fallen in love then I'm afraid that all of the crap about professionalism and getting fired or being a distraction for the student and the teacher from the lesson is irrelevant because none of it is as important as knowing you've found something as incredible as love if its for real then you'll be in no doubt as to how to proceed and you wouldn't need to hear anyone Else's opinions on weather or not its right because if it is then you'll not even realise that you have any option but to pursue it and anyone here telling you otherwise hasn't a clue what they're talking about I'm afraid.Anybody who is capable of choosing a job at the expense of true love (not that i think its possible)but if you did then I don't think you could live out the rest of your days once you realised that you'll never feel like that again and how shallow you must be to have considered a job more important. Jobs are always available if you look but you've only got one true soul mate. Money is just paper that pretends its worth something but to truly find a soul mate somebody who you know will always be there money or no money it has no bearing on weather you're truly wealthy because love is the only truly valuable thing that you can find.
2007-02-26 22:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Grae(ME) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a bit of a cop out but I wouldn't fall in love in the first place as I am a professional teacher and not some lovelorn teenager. I do teach in an university and am surrounded by many intelligent beautiful young women but I wouldn't take advantage of my position not matter what
Universities don't like it and would sack you if it was known and university tutors are unlikely to be less than 30 years old as you need a masters or higher and some experience to become a tutor
2007-02-27 08:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by xpatgary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you are his tutor then you need to wait until you two have no connection as a student and teacher. Once you are in the clear and still want a romatic connection, then fine. Be very careful that you do not ruin your reputation!
2007-02-26 18:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd act more professionally from the start, it should be a educator/learner relationship and should never develop into love, the tutor should give clear boundaries on the 'relationship' which should be about learning and welfare - and nothing more!
2007-02-27 06:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by just trying to make a difference 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave - the students are there for an education and not to be distracted by a tutor
2007-02-26 15:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing at all - until they were no longer a student.
Its a great way to get accused of bumping up someone's marks if people know you fancy a student. It can also get you fired!
2007-02-27 05:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of the Night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id remember that i am a proffesional doing a job of work. this sort of thing is frowned upon but it happens and you are both consenting adults but is it worth the aggro
2007-02-26 15:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by smudgerok 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great way to get fired.
Get a job somewhere else, THEN pursue the relationship.
That way there's no risk involved.
2007-02-26 15:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by dork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if they are over 18 and your still on the youngish side, its not against the law is it. Go for it
2007-02-27 07:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by denny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he/she graduates and then start dating. If you love him/her you can wait for him/her to graduate from the university.
2007-02-26 17:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by MaxNHL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋