turned it on instead. At first I thought it was a joke and then I relized what he was doing. I confronted him when he called me a few minutes later. He came home and said he was sorry and it was only his 3rd time. He will never do it again. Of course how can I believe it....... what steps would you make to what to do..leave him or work through it?
Lost and devested
2007-02-26 07:08:02 · 21 answers · asked by weblogic b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
e mail me and lets discuss it
2007-02-26 07:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off what is he discussing when he has phone sex? is he living out a fantasy you dont do with him a position? try taking 1 hour and doing all and everything he wants to do then having him do all and everything you want him to do this is a way for you to discuss what you fantasise about third if this dosent work then i suggest that you ask him what makes him want to have phone sex with other women maybe he gets horny at work and wants sex yet cant have you so he does that instead maybe he wants someone at work and wont act on it and does the phone sex instead
2007-02-26 07:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mark R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his in person sex any good? is yours. if you have been reading around here long you will realize that the only reason a guy married or not or is in a relation yes. the only reason they stray is because they are not being fed their needed fair share of fantasy sex... You either address it and fix the problem or you loose him to someone who will feed it too him. period! Start thinking nasty and x-rated thoughts any thing less and it's no fantasy. If you get really nasty and if you need help figuring it out start reading forum or variations (if Penthouse still has them in print) learn to be naughty in bed do the unheard of learn to love the nasty naughty ways you can really come out of your shell and loose your inhibitions having more orgasms than you ever thought possible. JUST DO IT.
2007-02-26 07:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back a few feet & look at the hole picture ,don't make any choices till you comdown. See what he does to try to make it up to you. The im sorry , it won't happen again after the third time.Opps i hit redial by mistake.
Was this a pay sex call or someone he nows.Find this out. Pay calls will be on his bill or credit card bill. If it local girl there maybe more to it????? Sorry about this.
Good luck
2007-02-26 07:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes people do things they are truly sorry for when they are caught doing them. Him coming home and apologizing for what he had done and admitting it was only 3 times says that he just may very well be sorry and it could be worked out between you. I don't approve of phone sex any more than the actual act of cheating or even chat room exchanges. If it were me, I'd give him a second chance, talk to him and find out why he did this and what he got out of it. You may turn out to be his new chat buddy adding a little more spice to your marriage.
2007-02-26 07:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I find it unlikely that he is just having phone sex.
I think he's nailing her as well, and you're naive if you doubt it.
I've nver talked dirty to a girl on the phone, that I haven't already engaged in some physical activity with.
Absolutely, positively INSIST on counselling at once, no matter what he says, even if he swears he won't do it again.
You need to deal with why he needed it in the first place, or it's just a matter of time before he's bagging someone else.
Trust me, I'm a guy. I know this stuff.
2007-02-26 07:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by dork 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He needs help! Don't believe him about ONLY being his 3rd time. These people are sick. Chances are he WILL do it again, no matter what he said. He was probably more sorry that he got caught. I would NEVER believe him. Even if you don't catch him at it again, he might be doing it on another phone.
Even though it was on the phone, he was still cheating on you. Phone sex AND looking at porn are wrong. You don't need this and you can do much better - sorry! Please remember that this is NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
2007-02-26 07:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ONLY HIS 3RD TIME, HUH? AND HE JUST HAPPENED TO GET CAUGHT RIGHT OFF THE BAT? I DON'T KNOW.......
I SAY TAKE A GOOD HARD LOOK AT HIS PHONE RECORD. GO THROUGH ALL OF THEM AND LOOK UP EACH CALL MADE. AND IF THE CALLS WERE INBOUND, THEN I'D BE VERY, VERY CONCERNED BECAUSE THIS MEANS HE WAS SEARCHING FOR SOMEONE THROUGH EMAILS LOOKING FOR EROTIC CHAT AND SO FORTH. I WOULD DOUBT IT WAS HIS 3RD TIME.
2007-02-26 09:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its his first offence try to work it out. Talk it out ,there could be something he feels hes missing.(right or wrong) Our society is so accepting of porn and meaningless sex everybody sees it differently and guys seem to see it as normal and as long as they didnt actually engage in sexual behavior it shouldnt be a big deal.Tell him your take on things and see how he sees it and try to come an agreement on acceptable behavior for you both. Would he accept this from you??
2007-02-26 07:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by sugar 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of these answers are just plain crazy! Why would he be having phone sex with another woman??? That's not ok!!!! What's next, having dinner with her? It rarely stops just at phone sex, there is always the intention of real sex behind it. He needs counseling. Personally, I'd be very tempted to leave his a--!
2007-02-26 07:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Now you know that it should have been you he was having phones sex with. I know this was hard for you to hear, but it should be an eye opener for the way you view your marriage.
Please don't make this situation any worse than it already is by looking too much into it. Just make adjustments and focus the negative energy into being sexually desirous to your man. All this is with the assumption that your husband is worth keeping.
Ingore, everything I said if your husband is not worth keeping.
2007-02-26 07:16:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋