I wouldnt care but this is her first real bf. and he has been in alot of trouble including he is a first degree sex offender and he is only 21. Can anyone help me? what can i say to her? what is the best thing for me to do?
2007-02-26 07:00:55 · 10 answers · asked by fobfanlovesgreg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't waste your breath, because you will just be building up her "Romeo & Juliet" story by appearing to oppose her. Sometimes people WANT to have a tragedy. Let her, you can't stop it, and you can only make it worse.
2007-02-26 07:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing is to stay out of it think all the times your parents tried to warn you about things only for you to get mad at them and go and do it anyways these are things people have to learn for them selves trying to confront her will only strain your relationship
and when it's time for her to ask you if she thinks she should break up with him or not she wont trust you as she'll think that you never liked him at all which discredits your opinion so here's what you do be a good sister and support her be there for her when they get in fights (they will get in fights) it's better to be her confidant rather than her judge ya see then when it gets to the point when she's like i dint know if this is working out what should i do then tell her to break up with him because after all that is the problem it's not that she's moving away it's that she's leaving with him and you dont trust him to take care of her right
so really all you can do is be supportive and let her decide he's a creep on her own
2007-02-26 15:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, probably nothing.
I know you don't want to hear that, but let me explain...
My brother had a girlfriend whom none of us liked. She sent him on errands and expected him to bow down to her however she wanted. She had a horrible attitude and bad mouthed our entire family whenever they were behind closed doors. She forbid him to see any of his friends, and made dramatic scenes any time he tried to stand up for himself. We all hoped it wouldn't last, but eventually they decided to move in with eachother. My brother couldn't afford his own place yet, but she demanded it so he worked his bum off just to pay rent on an apartment that she wanted. We warned him before this it was a bad idea, we pointed out all the horrible things she did to him, but he didn't want to hear it, so he didn't. They moved in with eachother. It wasn't until almost a year after that, she got mad because he didn't have the resources to buy her all the pretty things she wanted, so she dumped him. It wasn't until later that week, we came to us and said, "You know what? You guys were right." He knew it, but he refused to see it.
I'm going to bet that your sister will be the same way. She'll distort it however she wants in her head, and nothing you say will change her mind. I would suggest letting her know how you feel, and why, but tell her that whatever she decides to do you'll still love her. That way if she does run off with this guy, she'll know that she can always talk to you, or have somewhere to fall back to if everything goes as bad as you expect. And also, people are more willing to admit that they were wrong (especially to themselves) when they don't think there's a Me vs. You dispute going on.
2007-02-26 15:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rhyno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You can let her learn a painful lesson.
2. Since this is unacceptable, all you can do is sit her down and talk and air your concerns.
You can solve this and she will change her mind, or she will be foolish and go ahead with the move. Either way, she IS an adult and the finale decision is hers.
2007-02-26 15:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nicnac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convince her not to go. she is your sister and i think she would understand that you love her and dont want her to get hurt. i mean he is a perv, and i would want my sister to be with a guy like that. i know that she might think u r jealous and dont want her to be happy but just talk to her. she can find another boyfriend , there are MANY better guys out there. plus she doesnt have to find a bfriend now, she can concentrate on her schoolwork. im 18, i would listen to my sister if she has a problem with me leaving to live with a sex offender . AANd if she doesnt listen KNOCK SOME SENSE IN HER
GOODLUCK!!!
2007-02-26 15:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by SD18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her, tell her that you wouldn't get to see her often if she moves 4 hours away and that you would miss her. Try not to diss her boyfriend to much beause even if he is a loser, once you start talking bad about him to her, odds are she's going to tune you out. You could also talk to your parents and you could all have a sit down talk with her.
2007-02-26 15:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by farmergyrl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit and talk to her. No whining, no crying. Tell her that you want her to think about it more. Ask her to stay at home for another 6 months before she moves out.
2007-02-26 15:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what u think and give it to her striaght no feeling and after words there should be no sorry i want u to tell her what u think ur stupid in the first place for letting it get this far
2007-02-26 15:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by @XD_inc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advising her not to do it will only encourage her. Let her come crying back when he beats her or something.
2007-02-26 15:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by jenny j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything she has to learn from her own mistakes.
2007-02-26 15:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋