My beau is mad at me over a car we bought together. He ended up throwing the keys on the table and storming out of the house telling me to "keep the car, I don't want anything to do with you anymore". He caught a greyhound bus (hrs) back to his home state, and refuses to talk to me. Should I continue trying to call him and text him or should I let it go? And how can I stay busy and quit thinking about the incident. I'm so depressed.
2007-02-26 06:45:46 · 19 answers · asked by bubblyboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it seems really small, and it is except for the fact that he really flew off the handle and left. He will not answer when I call at all.
2007-02-26 06:52:39 · update #1
Quasimodo, dude, why are you so angry? Geesh. Take a chill pill man. Everyone else, thanks for your advice. I've decided not to call him anymore and just let him cool off.
2007-02-26 07:11:47 · update #2
Just "let it go" for a few days, and "let cool heads prevail". After a couple of days, when you both have calmed down, you can discuss it like two mature adults. Stop the calling, and texting. You're doing more damage than good if you continue.
2007-02-26 06:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you? A simpleton? You have a boyfriend, you buy a car together (dumb idea when you aren't married you know) and because you get the car of your choice he tosses the keys on the table, says he never wants to see you again and leaves state? And you don't know what to do?
Christ...let me tell you this one time. Then perhaps you can figure these easy ones out for yourself.
If he stormed out over someting as insignificant as this then let me fill you in...no man acts like this and leaves state unless this just happened to be the oppurtunity he was looking for to end this relationship to begin with. Now...if you had half a brain you'd send him a registered letter telling him he has 30 days to claim all his belongings or they will be discarded. Do not allow him back into your life and if you do than you truly are stupid and get whatever comes down the pike.
I mean...don't you consider this behavior assinine? Are you okay with this? Would you take him back? Why would you be depressed. Quite frankly it seems to me you're better off without this jerk.
2007-02-26 15:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let things cool off for a while. When he calms down he'll call you. The last thing he wants to do while he's angry at you, is talk to you. A car is hardly the thing to end a relationship on (if he's willing to end things over a car, you're better off without him), so just enjoy the space, wait a couple of weeks before you call again, and talk about it later. It may not even take that long.
2007-02-26 14:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by mixedup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of being right about the argument apologize and ask for him to talk it out with you. It must have been something really bad for him to take off to another state. Men don't usually fly off the handle that easy. It probably isn't a bad idea to let him cool down as opposed to driving him nuts trying to call him and text him. He knows you are trying to get in touch with him so let him do it on his terms since you caused him to blow up and leave.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 14:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd reaction.
Obviously there is more to the story than described.
Why would the car be an issue unless he was going to use it to see the parents in another state and you needed it for work.
Give him a few days call him see how he is when he calms down. Nobody goes that nuts the first time, it sounds like deeper issues are concerned
2007-02-26 14:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. That doesn't sound even a little bit small, not to me!! Let him go completely!! You get over him as soon as you can. Stay
busy and make new friends. He is gone and you don't need him back anyway. He is not someone you can rely on. @8-)
2007-02-26 14:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go and pay him no mind...If you think about calling him..call a friend instead...He'll begin to wonder why you arent calling him anymore and he'll call you...let it go...he'll come back...and if he doesnt...you'll find someone better who wont get mad at you for stupid reasons like that or will want to talk things over instead of just ditching you...you deserve better...
2007-02-26 15:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Navi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only work on you and not on him. Let him go, cool off.
Take up golf, sell stuff on eBay, work another job, take classes at a local college do something fun and find you. If you are happy you will have more things go your way.
Good Luck
2007-02-26 14:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Alan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he traveled that far to get away, I'd believe him when he said he didn't want to have anything to do with you. If he truly feels that way, he's going to stay away and not answer your calls.
Give him the time and space he is demanding. You really have no other choice unless you want to totally drive him away by your neediness. Be strong.
2007-02-26 14:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.. let him cool off for a couple of days. As far as not thinking about it, spend more time with friends, at the gym or at work.
2007-02-26 14:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by MagPie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋