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2007-02-26 06:43:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm 49 and I'm currently in the middle of my second divorce. Personal goals have taken the place of love in my life because it's all I have now. I'm not being a whiner, it's just that I never took the time to figure out what I wanted for myself, and molded myself to fit other peoples' needs because I loved them. Now I love ME.
2007-02-26 06:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time, I wold have placed love as the highest personal goal. But having lived a bit, I don't think it's possible to have love as a conscious goal---it just sort of has to be there and happen. Once someone does find it, you can make it a priority in your life, but you still have to maintain other parts of your life, or you'll just fall apart. Love can't be your end-all be-all sole reason for existing. I would say the best plan would be to focus on your personal goals and try to make your life the best you can. And if and when the opportunity for love arrives, go after it and nourish it. But never at the expense of other parts of your life, because it's likely those parts are a great factor in what make you a person others will love, AND what will keep you loving yourself.
2007-02-26 14:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by blueblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably personal goals. At least there you have the illusion of some sort of control.
Love is out of our hands (and minds to some extent)
2007-02-27 14:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as other peoples' intention with you are concerned - they always go for personal goals. Love is only between two people or family. Blood is always thicker than water and if you're not family or married - watch your back.
2007-02-26 17:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by MaggieSA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are not mutually exclusive. Even better if your love shares your goals.
2007-02-26 21:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both
2007-02-26 14:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋