when the BF is staying over each weekend...taking my son out with his mother each weekend he is there...and in one incident...my son woke up at 6 am to find the BF there but not his mother who left for work...mother refuses to let me meet with him...
2007-02-26 06:42:32 · 11 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After two failed attempts at custody, demanding curbside drop off and pick up which was not the practice for 3 years post divorce - 2 weeks later she introduces my son 8 to the BF unnannounced or unprepared to meet him...she just shows up and hten introduces him...my son "can't stand the guy dad"..."he acts like there is nothing wrong when he comes over I can't stand him, I don't want to be around him", the BF sleeps over on the weekends in a small one bedroom apartment...my son and I invited them both to an outing to get to know him on neutral territory...the invitationjj was denied...this new reaction in the ex started abruptyl when before we had constant contact and conversations together...at her place and mine...for over 2.5 years...now the BF comes out of the woodwork, I have curbside, less time..and she takes my son on dates with the guy
2007-02-26 07:26:02 · update #1
As long as your son is comfortable with him, there should not be a problem. She does not have to let you meet with him. How do you approach her about the subject? If you are making her uncomfortable about it or questioning her, then maybe that is why she is defensive. Try a different approach and in time I am sure you will meet him eventually. I am sure she has nothing to hide - maybe he just doesnt want to meet with you. Not to many people want their exs to know their business and as long as your son is being taken care of, don't worry about it. I don't want to say it is not your business, but it IS hers.
2007-02-26 06:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that whatever is the best interest of your son. Every parent is responsible for the safety and care of their child. Being a good parent means that your are always looking out for your child's welfare. I believe that if you can approach the subject with your ex-wife in a manner that you are a concerned father and would just like to meet and see for yourself that your son is comfortable in his new relationship with the new boyfriend. A public place would be best. Maybe lunch at your son's favorite restaurant with the 3 adults present. Just casual hang out for lunch, meet and make it short? Life is hard adjusting to new relationships for everyone concerned. I had divorced parents growing up as a child a new step-dad and a new step-mom. I loved them all and had 2 families because of it. It can be a good relationship for your son. Hopefully you and your ex-wife can discuss this rationally and put your mind at ease.
2007-02-26 07:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by just breathing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could merely permit him flow. and notice what occurs. If he starts off fishing together with his ex spouse then i could be fearful. as lengthy as she does not start up appearing contained in the image then it may be ok shouldn't it? it may be fairly distinctive if that they had childrens jointly, then of course he has valid motives for being in touch with all of them. perhaps that's merely something he needs to do cos he has various appreciate for his ex father in regulation and treats him extra like a pal incredibly then an ex relatives member. i could be a splash unsettled too on the grounds that's a splash immediately, yet perhaps it incredibly is merely an harmless gesture. the actual undeniable fact that he phoned in front of you shows he's not hiding something from you the two. merely be affected person what occurs, and take it from there.
2016-12-18 11:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he should. However, my situation is completely opposite. I have not had the pleasure of meeting my ex's new wife. She is around my children on a daily basis and for two years I have heard "she doesn't want to meet you" from him.
So, yes, put your foot down. If your child lives with her then you should have every right to knock on the door and introduce yourself--with or without her there.
Let me know how it goes though because I am very tempted to do the same thing!
2007-02-26 06:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Right" as far as legal right? No, you have no legal grounds, or rights, as far as meeting the new boyfriend.
She might not want you to meet him, because there are anger/hostility issues (which even I hear in your post).
You should want to meet him for the benefit of your child, and that is the only reason. To "size up" the new guy, or cause problems is not the reason to have a meeting.
Take time to evaluate your motives, get counseling, if necessary.
2007-02-26 07:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you would have any legal right to meet the BF. But, I do think your ex has a moral obligation to allow you to meet the BF.
2007-02-26 06:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by MagPie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to see my exes boyfriend and that's a promise because i want him to know who will be coming for him if her ever touches one of my kids!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 10:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by nclonewolf1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt have to but it is right just ask her nicely and if you have somebody let her meet her. I know ask nicely but her *** should!
2007-02-26 09:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by dirbe22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...you left the mom so you have no control over who she is with.
2007-02-26 06:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋