bc of my last relationship I lost a few good friends and now my relationship is over i have to re-start.
Its really anoying as my best mate from school is in the army so only see him few times a year. I cant really get back into contact with my old friends as 1) havent got there number and 2) it would be too weird.
I want to start going out in groups of mates like i used to. i see everyone else doing it and crave it so much yet I dont know how/where to meet people like myself.
Im trying to join a footie team again though its hard as the teams are usually together for years and dont really accept newbies unless your invited him by a team member.
Has any one got any tips?
Dont get me rong I aint a loner and I do have mates- I just want to have groups of mates where everyone knows/likes eachother.
cheers
2007-02-26 06:38:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
problem is distance! my work lot are about a 15 min drive so its very hard to just go out for a social drink. going out locally I see alot of old school people in a group etc- yet during school and to this day i think there muppets. Im hoping to start a new job so hopefully start going out with them alot.
I feel as someone else said- id like to have my own bunch of good mates who ive known for years- but guess it just aint gonna be.
Can i ask though- do people think its sad when you go out drinking or clubbing with only 1-2 people?
I never been one to care about what other people think its just i wonder if theres something rong with me and why i havent got a group of mates like 4+
2007-02-26 07:54:38 · update #1
I'm exactly the same and have been for a good couple of years.. i have a few friends scattered about but no solid group. My boyfriend has a massive group of friends that he has grown up with, they're like family to him and im so envious! I have been excepted by them also and they're great, but its not the same, i want my own solid group.. cos also, if my boyfriend and i were to break up, i'd have nobody! Sorry, i know im not offering you an answer here, just wanted you to not feel alone, im the same! lol.. oh also, i hate birthdays cos i know i dont have many people to invite whereas my boyfriend always has big crowded parties!
2007-02-26 06:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always found that when a relationship breaks up that people always takes sides which is wrong I always try to be friends with every one and not judge anybody. But still their are always a few who do. It is good that you are trying to join a footie team - making new friends - or you could try doing an evening course, that way you have got an interest that you all enjoy doing and you can text or talk to each other about the course in order to do you homework. Also is there no way that you can email your friend in the army. What about going on friends reunited with your old friends you might find them and get back in touch with them. I hope it all works out for you and that this advice may be helpful to you. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE IT WORKS OUT 4 YOU.
2007-02-26 14:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by julie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This mite not work for a bloke, but when I moved to a new area I went through the Two's Company or similar advert in the local paper for the section on friends seeking friends. I met up with women in similar situations who just wanted to go clubbing and socialise with each other and I now have a very good circle of friends out of this. Give it a try and if you don't get on with them just wait for the next addition of the paper to come out until you meet people that you do get on with. In answer to your question about how many to go out with, as long s you arnt on your own, then 2 is great. At least your out and you mite bump into people you've met in the past that you haven't seen for ages. Or a relationship. But don't lose new friends for a girlie. Its important to stay in touch with mates.
2007-02-26 20:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by taceyrees 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get in contact with your old friends even if it is only one of them. Is there any one at work you can make new friends with? If you have one friend maybe ask them if you could join them on when of their nights out and then maybe you could become part of the group. you just have to jump in there with both feet you might find the best mates you can ever have. Good luck and be confident.
2007-02-26 15:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jo H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i see , ur friends dont like the people you go out with? well if they were really were ur friend they would atleast not say anything bad, to make u look bad, thats my opinion
2007-02-26 14:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by angelof2004@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋