my best friend and every1 else has been saying my bf has been asking other girls out which he has i saw him 1 or 2 times ask someone else out now hes being really horrible to em and my other friends and i hated one of my other friends because i saw her kissing him for like 2 seconds should i dump him???
2007-02-26 06:30:57 · 6 answers · asked by katy 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
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2007-02-26 06:38:32 · update #1
If I were you I would dump the jerkoff and find someone that is going to show you the respect that you deserve. Immature guys are a problem for all women at any age and this is just one example. Dump him, move on to greener pastures and enjoy life. Don't pay this jerk any mind just let it go.
2007-02-26 06:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by jcmc3056 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? What I do not understand here is why you would want to keep him. Firstly, this shows he really doesn't care for you or care for your feelings wether he knows you know or not. Secondly, he is "playing the field" and is not looking for anything meaningful. And, once more, you know it.
Why don't you think well enough of yourself to move on from this guy and find yourself someone that will think of you and treat you with nothing less than total respect. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. I have had my run of guys like this and they only want one thing... and from every place they can get it. Like a bee with flowers in a field he'll just keep on going. He does not want a relationship persay, more like easy access to one whenever he feels like it.
Do yourself a favor and ask yourself what it is that you want in a relationship and what it is that you want in a man. Ask yourself why it is that you have chosen this guy over happiness and the ideal one you really want. Ask yourself why you do not give yourself enough credit for being able to have more. Why not? Don't you deserve better? Don't you deserve happiness and someone that you can trust, and whom will give you respect back?
I am now married and have kids, but I have been there (and am sooo glad I am not there anymore) and I have learned a few things about men, things like this. #1 you need trust (if not then what's the point? Will you marry him some day only to become paranoid of him cheating on you every time he is away, staying out late, or away from you? Where good can this go if you can't trust him?... nowhere!), #2 good communication (really get to know him, his dreams aspirations, porblems, way of thinking of what he wants in his idal realtionship, future, his ideal of a person that he ends up with), #3 a relationship with friendship and caring in any good relationship (especially one that is romantic) #4 respect (must be given and returned), #5 wanting the same things in a relationship & for the future (otherwise you grow apart, waste time, or someone gets hurt)), #7 being able to comprmise and not "have it your way". In a relationship that is sucessful is one of give and take, not be self centered (otherwise the party giving and never getting back is resentful and feels hurt), & #8 you must both put in an effort. (A one-sided relationship is also one that will never work. A good one takes constant work but well worth it.)
Do not waste anymore energy or time on this man, if you can call him one really, and get on with your life in a better direction. Find out why it is that you would even consider "settling" for someone like this. Find someone better, and be happy... everyone deserves to be happy! (And P.S. this guy has serious issues and is someone I'd drop like a hot rock!)
By the way, in re: with your bs & that so-called friend of yours he was kissing; I'd talk to her. If this was her only infraction on all the time you've known her then I think if I were you we'd have a talk and if she appologized I could fogive something like that... I could forgive even if I would never forget. Speak to her and let her know it will take time for her build up your trust in her again. Friends are sometimes stupid but I doubt she did this to hurt you. If she was a long time friend perhaps she made the mistake of being caught up in whatever moment they were in. To error is human and we have all errored at one time. However, if she showed no remorse for this then break ties with her as well. Good friends are hard to find, and replace, but if she did not care how this affected you then you know that she really does not think of you as a friend at all. Good luck, and remember, you deserve to be happy and there are "plenty of fish in the sea!"
2007-02-26 14:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEP!!!!!!!!!!! He's a loser and its sounds as if he's not devoted to only you. I say dump him, you can do better than that!
2007-02-26 16:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Çåŗőľîņẫ§ħŷġĭ®ł 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! have some respect for yourself, hes a loser and u can do better!
2007-02-26 14:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES BABE. HE'S A DIRTY OLD CHEATER WHO DOESNT KNOW HOW TO TREAT WOMAN. IF HE MAKES UP AN EXCUSE DONT BELIEVE HIM. BELIEVE YOUR FRIENDS AND YOUR INSTINCT.
2007-02-26 14:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! even if it is innocent, you are uncomfortable with him, let it go.
2007-02-26 14:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by jekin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋