okay, i just had my baby about 3 weeks ago & the guy that is the father has been bugging me about doing a dna test cause he don't think it's his and to be honest i'm not sure if it is or not. i had to move back home with my mom cause i didn't have newhere else to go (i found out i was pg after we broke up). he told me he wanted a test done as soon as i told him i was pg so it's nothing new. neway, he's already paid to get one done & made 2 appts. that i came up w/ excuses not to go cause i don't want it to come back not his cause i told my mom that i wasn't with nebody else. i did go around & tell alot of people he's the father. now that i haven't willingly gone for the test he says that he's going to sue me to get a test & on top of the test he'll make me pay for his attorney's fees, the court cost, & re-pay him for the money he already spent on the test i didn't show up for. Can he really do that or is he bluffing to get me to do the test? Would a judge really make me pay all that
2007-02-26 06:15:00 · 21 answers · asked by victoria_angel_pg 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
will the judge really make me do the test and then have to pay everything else too?
2007-02-26 06:20:08 · update #1
i didn't know about him making the appt. until after he'd already made them however i did do something stupid and told a friend of his to tell him that i would be more than happy to give him this test. i thought that since i had stuck to my story he would believe me and wouldn't go thru with the test
2007-02-26 06:30:51 · update #2
he's not gonna give me another chance to willingly do the test though...
2007-02-26 06:36:33 · update #3
WHAT ARE THE CHANCES THAT HE'LL ACTUALLY WIN? I'M PRETTY SURE (LIKE 80% THAT IT'S NOT HIS)
2007-02-26 06:46:42 · update #4
Take the test. If it is not for you then wouldn't you want your kid to know who is his real father?
2007-02-26 06:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by steve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok Sweetheart... First of all as a young expectant " mother" I am sure that you had friends that told you talking about the supposed father was a bad idea. #1 you need to learn to keep your trap shut... The only thing you have succeeded in doing is making life hard on 2 innocents(your baby and some poor sap that is obviously a GREAT GUY since unlike most guys he is not denying the paternity automatically(as he has every right to do) but trying to find out the truth)!!!!!! Yes he can sue you for all of this because you opened your BIG MOUTH!!! If you kept your mouth shut he would not have had as strong a case as he now does. Now if this goes to court then all of the people you told will be subpoenaed to court. Hope your friends are loyal cause you are about to cause them all to lose a couple of days pay so they can see you possibly get humiliated. An next time if you are not sure which answer is right KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-28 09:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet you're hiney he can... since you were the one who told people he was the father all he has to do is sopena a couple of those people to the court to have them repeat what you said. You dug your own hole on this one... look at the facts:
1. You told people it was his when you say you're about 80% sure it's not his
2. He doesn't think it's his and pays to get a test done to prove either way
3. He's willing to do the test even though you could use that test against him to get child support if it comes back his (apparantly he's pretty sure he's not the daddy either if he's willing to do that)
4. You tell his friend that you will do the test and then back out after he's already paid for it and made two appointments
5. He says he will sue you since you did not willingly submit to the test after ruining his name and reputation by telling people it was his and that he will make you pay for the attorney's fees, court cost, and the money he lost on the other test.
I DON'T KNOW A JUDGE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND THAT WOULDN'T MAKE YOU PAY EVERY SINGLE PENNY (as long as it comes back not his). Sounds to me like he's a pretty decent guy who wanted to settle things the easy way and you're trying to make it hard. He sounds like he just wants to know for sure if it's his or not. And believe me, he wouldn't go through all this trouble to find out if he did not plan on being in the child's life if it comes back his. Sounds like a great guy who doesn't want to pay for a child that's not his but does want to be in the child's life if it is his. GROW UP... IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU ANYMORE... IT'S ABOUT WHAT'S BEST FOR THAT BABY AND THAT CHILD HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW WHO IT'S TRUE FATHER IS AS DOES THE FATHER HIMSELF...
2007-02-26 08:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As stated above you can be made at one point to take a DNA test, so might as well get that part over with
Once that is out of the way, let him sue you judge probably will not award him the past expenses for test, anyway he will have to show his actually lost. As toward attorney fees, are only award in certain circumstances I would not worry about it, if you take the test in fashionable time
2007-02-26 06:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by goz1111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, since he has an interest - he'll be liable for child support if the baby is his - he can force this suit. If you didn't know who the father was, you should have said that consistently. Saying it's his when you know it may not be is slander, and he could sue you for that too.
Why not do the whole world a favor - have the test, then give the baby up for adoption? You clearly are neither mature enough, nor financially stable enough, to have a child.
2007-02-26 07:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anybody can sew anybody for anything. Doesn't meen he'll win but he can make things difficult. I hope he should win. You sound like a hurtful little tramp. Shame on you for hurting this poor guy. Sounds like he's doing the right thing and you are taking advantage. I hope he wins his lawsuit and he isn't the father. In fact I hope the real father is some deadbeat that doesn't have a dime and you spend the next 18 years raising this child by yourself cause you obiously don't deserve to be with anyone.
2007-02-26 06:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by tengu312003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to show up for the DNA testing!!!!! It is only fair that he, and the baby know the truth.....
He has absolutely every right to sue you.....especially when he is actually offering to pay for the DNA test........
I detest woman like you, who don't care about the truth........
You should have thought about these things before you went spouting off at the mouth and sleeping around both! The man deserves to know if this is or is not his child...... GROW UP! you are a mommy now.
2007-02-26 06:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the others. He can sue you and he may well win. You have made your bed and now you have to sleep in it.
I know this sounds harsh and I'm sure you're not a bad person. But, you have to accept responsibility for what you have done. Go and have the test. It is going to happen and there is nothing you can do to stop it. I'm sure your mother, even if she is upset by your behavior, will still love you and accept you and the child. A mother's love is not conditional.
You have made mistakes here but it is time you faced them and at least tried to make things right.
2007-02-26 06:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh absolutly.. and a court will indeed order a Dna test...
IMO any male that dosent demand a DNA test thes days is an idiot... Females surpassed males statistically for 'cheating" about 10 years ago... I would demand a DNA test even on someone I was actually married to...
Yup if it turns out not to be his.. you will have to pony up and pay back just about everything.. child support.. court costs.. attny fees etc etc... You bet yer butt you'll pay.. hes not kidding.. he has total legal standing here.. and 1st year law student could win this one in thier sleep... (unless he does turn out to be the Dad via DNA test)
2007-02-26 06:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you would pay the costs. So, you want to stick this guy into paying for a child that may not be his? You are perfectly willing to lie, deceive and accuse just so you don't have to tell your Mom?
In a grown-up world, the mother wants to know who the father is in order to receive child support from the man who is responsible for it. You are wrong, wrong, wrong and you will pay through the nose when the court orders the DNA testing.
You are not fit to be a mother. Please use birth control in the future.....in my opinion.
2007-02-26 06:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he can get an order for a DNA test.
I hope you make the right decision to put the baby up for adoption to a loving family with a mother and a father. Don't mess up another kid's life thinking you can do it alone.
2007-02-26 06:39:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋