My husband and I are not divorced. We have been separated (not through courts) since March 2006. I had a baby in September and he has not had anything to do with him or me. I want to keep him from showing up at daycare or my parents, etc, and taking our son since he doesn't pay anything and the baby doesn't know him at all. How can I do this without being divorced. He wasn't even there for my entire pregnancy.
2007-02-26 06:00:07 · 7 answers · asked by skyjava1974 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by the way starla....i have given him opportunities to see her but he girlfriend won't let him. he left the relationship for an older woman that would support him. he left us...i have no problem with him seeing his son. I just don't want to go pick up our child and him be gone. i have no way of getting ahold of my husband. he lives with his girlfriend and has an unlisted phone after a year of him being gone i just don't want his girlfriend to get a wild hair up her a-- and decide to run off with the baby and take him away from the only parent that he knows!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-02-26 06:33:27 · update #1
If he hasn't had anything to do with you or the baby since the separation, you probably don't have to worry about him trying to take your child.
If you are having a hard time trying to get a divorce, you can go get a consultation from a lawyer and bring up abandonment.
2007-02-26 06:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have had to write on the paper work at the daycare of who could pick up the child. If they release the child to anyone else they would be in big legal trouble. If you didn't fill anything out see to it today that you do.
Him paying or not paying has nothing to do with him seeing his child. Even if you were divorced and he didn't pay legally he still gets to see the child. You should file for divorce and sole custody.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 14:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a LEGAL SEPARATION. YOU have no right to keep that child from knowing his father! YOU are the reason that the father has stayed away.
YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. EITHER GET THE DIVORCE OR LEGALLY SEPARATE!
I've been in family law for many years and you are the type that wants all the money, child support, spousal maintenance, but doesn't want the father to have any rights! You can hate him all you want, but why cheat your child out of the RIGHT to his FATHER? You want to stay married so you can reap the benefits of your husband's health insurance, etc.
Let the man out of the marriage and give him a way to see his son!
2007-02-26 14:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately since he is the child's father, without divorce and custody paperwork there really isn't anything you can do to keep him out of the child's life. It's his right as a parent, whether he's been there or not makes no difference without taking it to court. You could try a restraining order but you have to prove that he's a threat to you and your child for that.
2007-02-26 14:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is the father you can not legally do this unless you have a court order to present to the daycare otherwise you will have some drama that may cause you to be without daycare
until this matter is resolved. ( meaning Divorce) I would suggest
Google or yahoo search engines to review family law and or
legal aide in your area.
2007-02-26 14:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the father he still has rights, although he should be paying child support. talk to a lawyer.
2007-02-26 14:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just get divorced?
2007-02-26 14:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋