I have known this man for such a long time. I mean he was my friend way before I had my youngest daughter. He seen all i went thru with her dad. Now he's trying to make little comments and say things that i am not sure how to take. He knows that i am with someone. I have asked him in the past if he was trying to hit on me and he would say no. But i pick up on some of the things that are said. I have been avoiding him since my boyfriend has also picked up on some of the things said. Should I tell him that we can't be friends anymore. I am not willing to loose my man over him. Even though he's been my friend way before my man.
2007-02-26 05:52:09 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have to let him know that he'll have to watch his comments. You owe him that atleast (instead of just avoiding him). He might not realize how things are coming across. Maybe he does have feelings, but he lets them out with these comments. Just let him know that you're just friends, and that he has to accept it and treat you like it.
2007-02-26 05:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by lil_puppydog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may very well have deep serious feelings for you that he has never been able to admit out loud before. This is something you should sit down and discuss with him, just you two. Tell him what you said about him being in your life before your man, but you and your man are really getting some signals from him and you must know EXACTLY what his feelings for you are. If he does not come clean about what it is then make sure he knows by not doing so he is putting your friendship in jeopardy because the way you are currently feeling about his comments is driving a big wedge between you and him.
2007-02-26 06:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by havasufem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone else is right. He is trying to be more than friends. But I wouldn't think of that as a negative. It might be a case of him seeing all that you went through and now he is trying to protect you from going through it again. You need to sit down and talk to him. Maybe he is seeing things in this new man you aren't seeing.
Possibly he has had feelings for you for awhile and sees you about to get serisouly committed and wants to get in to stop that. Either way you need to talk to him. I rarely have female friends anymore for this exact reason. Either I will start to develop feelings or she will.
2007-02-26 06:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are seeing and hear the right things.Because sometime you can misunderstand things the wrong way.I had this to happen to me.and loss friend for the wrong reason.A friend is good to have.As long as he not touching you are making comment about things like sex or other things that make you uncomforfer.
2007-02-26 06:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friendship is way more important personally.. boyfriends come and go, friends are for life. If you and your new man break up who will you run to? Are you sure your new boyfriend isn't just jealous of the fact that you have another man in your life? I dunno, if it was me there is no way I would stop hanging out with one of my friends just because of his insecurities. After all you asked your friend if he was hitting on you and he said no.
2007-02-26 05:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's doing everything he can to get you and your boy toy to break up. but if you truely love your boyfriend then you will have a talk with your best friend.....just go to lunch or something then lay down the law saying you have a boyfriend and you love him very much and nothing can break you guys up and you would really appertiate it if he would stop like hitting on you and things like that.
2007-02-26 05:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's loved you for a long time now. He's doing his best to swing you away from your existing boyfriend in hopes that you'll go out with him. He's on his last straw..
Let him down easy, ok?
2007-02-26 05:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if he is your true friend he will be honest with you as you should be with him. confront him on everything and see what he says. if he says that he does not like you like that, then let him know that you are not confortable with the way he has been acting lately. and if he says that he does like you, well you know you have to let him go, or make it clear you all are just friends.
2007-02-26 05:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Belinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to your friend tell him how you feel be upfront and honest. :) If he is a true friend he will understand.
2007-02-26 05:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Amie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋