Yet this is proven wrong time and again by all the Q's and A's that I read here.
2007-02-26 05:44:15 · 20 answers · asked by Joe B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Marriage is not all about sex. Just like a car is not all about the gas. But, that car ain't moving without gas. Neither is a marriage without a good sex life. Saying that, when you are driving your car, unless the needle is on "e" you aren't thinking about the gas, because there is so much more to pay attention to other that the gas, other drivers, where you are going, traffic signs, kids in the back seat, etc. Marriage is the same way. There are a lot of important things to think about even when the sex life is good. A good sex life in a marriage fuels the good intentions of the idividuals in the marriage.
2007-02-26 06:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you ask 100 married people to give you the top 3 reasons why they got married, you'd get a lot of different answers, and probably some similarities.
I can't speak for other people, but sex is important for us.
That's not to say that we do it every day, though.
The rest of the time, we're just hanging together, doing the things that we've always enjoyed doing; cuddling, watching a movie, gardening, canoeing, fishing, etc.
And the frequency of sex has nothing to do with the quality of sex. We can get out kink on once a week and let 'er snap, and be good for several days. We both also solo in between.
So, is sex important? Mmm...yes, to varying degrees.
2007-02-26 14:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it might not be all about sex but sex cannot be factored out of the equation when dealing with marriage.
imho the idea that marraige should not be about sex is mindless drivel spouted by the icons of feminism and pop culture. if marriage and sex were not inextricably intertwined then there would be no reason to promise faithfulness in the marriage vows. the idea that sex isn't important in a marriage is just plain foolish.
men often require sex to maintain the emotional connection and intimacy required for a lasting maritial relationship . hell some women have the same need.
without sex it's not marriage, it's just being roomates.
2007-02-26 14:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by jude D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is definately not all about sex, My wife is the sweetest, most wonderful woman I have ever known and she is the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately she isn't into everything that I am and that creates some problems. Or maybe I'm the problem that I don't tell her everything I think. My wife is the only person I have ever met that I would die for or kill for, she means that much to me. Sex is immaterial when you have that kind of relationship, its about the love.
2007-02-26 13:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This will be question #1,723 I have answered here, and I have not seen a single one that PROVES that marriage is all about sex. I have seen many people who were unhappy because of their sex lives. I have read many by people who cheated or were cheated on. However, at the risk of repeating myself, not a single one said that marriage was all about sex. Sex is a factor in marriage. You have a brain -- don't be afraid to use it.
2007-02-26 13:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think for men it is all about sex. For woman it is a family and a home. Now, there is always exception, there are woman out there that is all they want is sex and what a man can give them. What marriage is all about I think is gone. No body wants to work hard a a relationship anymore. They are all too self centered. It is a me world.
2007-02-26 13:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am no expert, but, I have been HAPPILY married for 27 years to the same man, and I can tell you that this is a yes/no answer.
It's important if you aren't having it, and not if you are.
First of all you have to realized that sex is different for women than men in some ways.
And neither is wrong it's just different. Also, your needs for it change as you age also. To a degree. Now of course, I am generalizing, and there is always the exception. But, for the most part it's pretty much the same for all of us.
Women and men have different reasons for needing sex in their marriage as well. But, it's all about connecting. I think that most couples who are married just want to connect. And one of the healthy and normal ways is through sex.
And as we go through different stages of our marriage, we also change our feelings about it.
For instance, generally women need to feel loved to want sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved. This is all normal. And it can create a paradox. Because it seems that we are at opposite ends of the deal. And I think it's more confusing in the beginning of marriage than after you are married for many years. Also, our hormones play a big part. When we are young men have more testosterone and as we get older, this tapers off a little and men start to want more than just penetration. They want intimacy. While women have less estrogen and this makes them want more sex.
So all kinds of factors come into play.
But, my personal opinion is that if you are a happy, healthy, loving couple, regardless of age, then you should want to have sex with each other. Often. Not maybe like rabbits, but often. This act, reinforces the emotional bond that we have as a couple, and keeps us connected. And ladies, if you want him to be more attentive, then just give him more sex. It's pretty easy. You can just do a "quickie". He doesn't care, he got to get his tensions satisfied, and he feels close to you. So when you need attention, then he is more willing to give it. Each person in a marriage has to take responsibility for their part. And if you want to have a healthy, happy relationship, then you have to consider the value of sex.
It's a loving caring way to let your partner know that they are still special to you.
If you don't want to have sex with your spouse, then maybe you should evaluate why. It's not normal to not want to if you love them.
2007-02-26 14:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Harley Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "all" about sex, but for many people sex happens to be a very important part of marriage. Marriage is not "all" about any particular thing, it is about all these things in combination - only when one of them goes wrong does it become "all" about this particular issue.
2007-02-26 13:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it...a marriage without sex would be about like spending your life with another person who you're not intimate with. Intimacy keeps people close. I personally want to be married to someone who knows me inside & out & still loves me. Someone who can still turn me on & drive me crazy even after the kids are making us want to scream! It's just a big part of it. My idea of marriage includes sex (good sex).
2007-02-26 13:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sam F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage is not all about sex, but each spouse should seek to fulfill all of the other's needs. Denying a loving partner with reasonable expectations is selfish.
2007-02-26 13:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Killer B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋