Can i move out of my moms house at 16 after i have my baby and move in with the babys dad?
2007-02-26 05:30:03 · 25 answers · asked by Ashley Moore 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It depends on what state you live in. In most states, once you become pregnant you are emancipated. Check with the local government.
As a side note, make sure before you leave your parent's home that this is something that you want to do. If he is not going to TAKE CARE of THE BABY and YOU, provide adequate housing and financial assistance stay at home. Don't find out the hard way that he can't provide for the 3 of you. Wanting to get a job, and wanting an apartment, isn't the same thing as having all those things.
Also, government assistance can only do so much. So be careful, I understand that right now you feel very overwhelmed and your family might still be a little disappointed about the situation but think before you act!
Good luck!
2007-02-26 05:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look,I am a young mum myself so I know exactly where your coming from. At 16 you can move out of your mums but only do it if you really know that the babys dad is going to be behind 100%. Even if he isnt your mum always will be. Have you considered staying with your mum for the first month and then living with your partner?It would make your life easier because your mum will always be there to lend a hand if things get hairy!I moved out of my mums at 15 and had my baby at 16 but moving out was a big mistake for me as I felt so alone and I really could have done with my mums help. I'm 18 now and my daughter is 18 months I would give anything to move back home!
Remember:even though you are so young you can still be an excellent mum but it turns your life upside down so think carefully before you leave home!
2007-02-27 01:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you will have enough support and the relationship with the babys dad is good then it shoudnt be a problem. It depends how emotionally confident and independent you are.
Having a baby is seriously scary (I'm 23 and i'm still not ready).
You need all the support that you can get. If your boyfriend is working then you will be on your own during the day. If things are different at home then stay for a bit atleast until you get used to handling the baby.
Does the babys dad live alone? If he does then it is a good chance to build a family situation but if not then you risk his family interfering more than you may b comfortable with.
Work out your relationship strengths and weaknesses because it will seriously affect your bond with the baby and relationship after the baby is born.
Hope i haven overwhelmed you with suggestions.
Good luck
2007-02-26 05:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett write 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
I work with young mums who have left home and young homeless people, and I have learnt allot from the young mums saying that they wish they'd stayed at home.
You have to think whats best and the safest option for your baby. If your partner has a job and will be 100% behind you, will he be able to support you and the baby.
You may have to wait a long time if you want apply for housing through the council as well
Best of luck and make sure you realy think every option over, and there are lots of people who can give you sound and practical advice
2007-02-28 07:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by lydia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really think about this. Only to know if you are ready because no matter how good of a dad he is your mom can help you with alot of questions and sleepless nights. However if you feel you are ready then you can get emancipaided only if it is a safe and secure enviorment also make sure you leave on good terms with your mom so that you can still go to school and be a teenager with your mom being the safest babysitter(also free)lol. Well hope everything goes good and works out.
2007-02-26 06:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 3 times older than you with an infant baby. It's me, my wife, her mother, and a full-time live-in nanny, all under one roof. And we are all exhausted.
Don't for a minute think moving in with the baby's dad is going to take you away to some magical happy land that you are not having with your parents. It is incredibly rough, and you really are going to have to think of the baby's health and welfare.
Are you going to stay in school? Do you think you (without a high school degree?) and the baby's dad's income can support this child without help from your family? Do you have any idea how much formula costs, for example? Diapers, doctor's visits, etc?
Although it is going to be a rough conversation to have, you are going to need to sit down with your parents and plan out how you are going to care for this child, with (or even without) them being involved.
I wouldn't be looking to move out just yet until you have a steady plan not only for the next nine months, but the next 18 years!
2007-02-26 05:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by apleyden 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the laws in the state you live in. In my state after you have a baby you are considered an emancipated adult, which means you are responsible for yourself and your child. I know this because my younger sister had a baby when she was 16. But, I would carefully consider all of your options. Is living with your boyfriend going to be completely beneficial to you and your baby? You have got to think all your decisions now not only affect you but they affect the life of another living being. Is your boyfriend going to be able to help take care of you and your baby or will this put stress on your relationship? Anyway you will first have to check out the laws in your state and then weigh all of your options.
Best of luck with your baby and your decision.
2007-02-26 05:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in reality yes you can.but why would you want to? 16 is still young to bring a baby up im sure you would rather be at home with your mums help then rather with the father if hes the same age as none of you know anything about babies
how would you cope ,how would you know what to do,what would you do if baby become ill
please reconsider and stay at home with your mum till the baby is at least one
i know you'll want to play happy families, but how can you? he cant work cant support you and at 16 he wont get no dole hun
2007-02-26 07:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. u r technically not a child at the age of 16. so if u wanted to move out, u could. i would just say one thing, try getting somewhere of your own, a council flat maybe? no offence, but if u split with baby's dad ur screwed. i kno wot ur thinking, solid as a rock yea? i thoughtthat a month ago with my baby's dad, love him to bits, yet the f**ker's still left me and i'm yet to figure out why!!! just remember, be careful and always make sure u have some place you can go with baby if the worst should happen.
BUT!! hopefully it won;t. i wish you all the luck in the world my dear.
2007-02-26 12:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly can, Although your mother might report you as a run-away but see i'm not sure exactly where your at and some places are different. Some places will make you go back to your mom, and other places like where i live they cannot make you go back..Have you tried talking to your mom about this? Have you talked to your babies dad about this as well??
Is their a reason why you want to leave?
Make a wise decision!
2007-02-26 05:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋