I am 27, recently separated ,my ex fully provides for me on a high standard. I have a 5 year old son. I was a highly paid model before.
Starting a well paid job in summer..
6 weeks ago I met and fell in love with the guy who is 5 years younger and a student.
but last week it went wrong after I said I am getting emotionally involved and like him a lot and said i am not sure we should continue dating because i like him too much!He got very upset and said he doesn't want to stop seing me, but somehow since than he has changed to me.
now the guy is saying that he needs time alone, he likes me but he "can't afford" a girl like me, i always talk about money directly or inderectly, and he is sick and tired of it. In fact he sais he felt so offended that I made a point that i am used to high life that he doesn't feel like seing me any more.
I truly apologised, and I begged him to let me know whether its over or not, but he refuses to comment, just sais he needs time alone..
2007-02-26 05:28:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not tryin to be rude and i have no worldly knowledge but, i think if he really loves you money woulden't matter. forget about him & don't get upset, you have to be strong. best wishes xxxxx
2007-02-26 05:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by izzi k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may need to step back from this for a couple of moments and ask "do I really feel for this guy or is it just infactuation"?
Bear in mind hes also that much younger as well and probably not looking for any commitment at this time in his life.
Don't beat yourself up about the way you acted though. If your used to a certain lifestyle its only natural to talk about it. Doesn't change you as a person - someone level headed enough should be able to look past that.
2007-02-26 13:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by D.W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Give him space. If he cares about you, he'll be back. It may just be that natural timing when infatuation wears off and he isnt emotionally attached to you. He see's the bigger picture. An older girl with a 5 yr old son and a lot more responsibilities than he's willing to take on in his young life. My real feelings are..... move on, find someone more mature.
2007-02-26 13:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you split up with him, then got back with him, right?
If that is the case, he is just being honest now. Before he was biting his tongue because he wanted to keep things going. But now you have shown him you are willing to break it off with him because you "like him too much". So now he is just unleashing feelings and thoughts he has always had.
I think you want this 'good life' and he is being the mature one by backing out of the relationship because he can't give that to you.
2007-02-26 14:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You put the doubts into the relationship by saying you didnt think it should continue. He already sees you as someone who break up marriages and now he sees how easily you break up this relationship
Its not surprising he wants nothing to do with you except maybe sex, as you cant be trusted with anything more
He's a wise guy
2007-02-26 17:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to talk about money all the time? You made him feel inferior, not suprised he wants to be on his own. Give him time to think. The sooner you realise looks and money aren't the be all and end all the better. Don't get me wrong, can't do much without money, but to harp on about it all the time gets on anyone's nerves. And don't forget.....looks go with time. sorry.
2007-02-26 13:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have issues with money. There ego gets a blow if the women make more money or is use to a way of life they can't afford. Stay true to yourself, he'll come around. Let him have time alone to get his ego in check
2007-02-26 13:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have clearly indicated that u prefer/want/desire/are used to a higher standard of living than he can obviously provide...he has accepted that fact and has decided to move on...now it is your turn...time to move on....u have only been dating for 6 weeks...at least this happened now and not 2 years from now.
2007-02-26 13:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't worth the money.
2007-02-26 15:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS A GOOD QUESTION! GUYS THAT SAY ONE THING AND MEAN ANOTHER IS A TRUE MYSTERY TO ME..... I AM GOING TO WATCH THIS ONE FOR THE ANSWERS AND SEE IF I CAN GET ANY INSIGHT FROM IT.
AND THEY SAY WOMEN ARE DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND!
2007-02-26 17:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋