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Im a 22 year old Af/Am woman who's been sexually active since June 2003. I have not yet to have an "O", sex is painful, and tampons are extremely painful. Do you think it's a possibility I have a tilted uterus or endometriosis? are those hereditary? My sister has endometriosis.
When my BF thrushes in deep, it feels like he's hitting a very very sensitive spot and I don't like it. Also, when i put in a tampon, i feel like there's blockage....like i cant put it all the way in. it hurts. It can't be my hymen because I've been having sex for 4 years now. It's not possible for the hymen to still not be broken, right? 2 of my past partners have both said (on own initiative) that when they have sex w/ me, they feel a bone rubbing against their penis...they say it's hurts them and it feel like I'm still a virgin. when i pull the tampon out it's extremely dry and HURTS LIKE HELL!
What is wrong w/ me?! Why cant I get an orgasm!? Please help me

2007-02-26 05:25:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Women's Health

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Maybe it's because your so dry that it hurts. Try using some lubrication and if you don't have much of a period going on it can hurt because it's so dry.

2007-02-26 05:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gorg.Gal 3 · 0 0

There's a wide range of normal in the way a woman's body is shaped, inside and out. Some vaginas are longer, some are shorter. The cervix can protrude farther down into the vagina in some women.

Pushing hard against the cervix can be uncomfortable, whether it's a tampon or a penis. It sounds like that could be what the pain is from. Unless the vagina is really deep, the penis should thrust posterior to the cervix, or behind it. If you are on your back, he should be thrusting toward your lower backbone.
Try putting your finger inside and feeling. Try to locate your cervix -- it feels almost like the end of your nose, except with a little hole in the middle. When you put in a tampon, aim behind it, towards the back, not straight up.
Like the other woman said, a lubricant is really important.

If you are in pain, or even if you are afraid of pain, it will be difficult to have an orgasm. For now, try it through manual stimulation.

Try a different position. If you start out straddling him (sitting) you may be able to figure out how to "aim" him in a direction that will be more comfortable. Then lie down, with you on top, if that feels more comfortable.

I would really recommend a gyn exam with someone who you can talk openly with, and who will take the time to help you figure this out. I am a midwife, and when I see patients with a problem like this, I try to duplicate the pain during my exam (Does this hurt? How about this?). Then I can help them to figure out what types of movements and positions to avoid.
It could be endometriosis, possibility, but people with that almost always have wicked periods, which you didn't mention.
Or, there could be some type of structural abnormality -- these things can usually be fixed.

Sex should be wonderful and enjoyable, and you should not just except painful intercourse as your lot in life. I hope you will go see someone who can help you with this.

I hope I have not been offensive by being so graphic, but there's really no other way to talk about this, and I hope I have helped at little at least.

2007-02-26 14:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by who me? 5 · 4 0

Go to your gyno. You need an exam. It shouldn't be hurting like that...the sex or the tampon. Maybe you have fibroids, too.

2007-02-26 16:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0 0

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