As a couple...?

Question

what has been the worst thing you've both had to work through?

Aw all of your answers are "best answers" I just dont know who to choose...

Answer 1

His cancer deal....but it ended with me only going through...he passed away...it was the most worst thing I have ever had in my life....I LOVED that man...and still do...

Answer 2

The holidays. I met my boyfriend two days after I burried my mother last March so needless to say, this year was bittersweet. Thanksgiving and Christmas were horrible, I mean I miss my mom so much, my father passed in 2000, but it was so hard. I was home a lot from work, depressed and he was there for me 100%. He has no idea what it feels like for me and he knew it would be rough but he was my rock. I am not the type to be that vunerable with anyone but he was my saving grace. I don't think I could have got through this past year without him.

Answer 3

I have been married going on 10 yrs and the worst thing that we both had to work through was him cheating. Til this day, I still have alil trust issues but slowly I'm beginning to give him trust. Don't get me wrong, my husband has changed allot and I know now that he really loves me. It took a years of separation for him to realize what he had. Now, he is love able, affectionate and a good husband and friend.

Answer 4

His affair. It really shook my self-confidence, my belief that he loved me so much he would NEVER do that to me and has left me wondering what is it that I AM lacking.

My husband told me it wasn't me that caused him to have the affair. It was his own ego because he was feeling trapped. Although my husband apologizes constantly, he only experienced the fear of being caught. He'll never know the self-doubt I am feeling.

We live in a small town and at times will run into the 'other' woman. My friends say she probably envies me because my husband and I are still together. I don't believe that. I believe she's proud of herself for getting my husband to stray. She knew we were married with a young child. But that didn't stop her from pursuing my husband. And yes, it took the 2 of them to have this affair. They're both responsible.

The sad result of this? How I've changed toward him. I love him. However I am a different person as a result. A piece of me has put a wall up between us. I don't trust him not to hurt me again. I truly used to 'light up' when I saw him but not anymore.

Answer 5

I like this question...even though it is hard to answer. I can say that as a couple we have never really worked out anything. The worst thing is that he tried to get alone time and bribed me with a McDonalds double cheeseburger so he could look at porn. Did we work that out together?? No. As a couple i say we really havent worked out anything together because our views on things are different. He has certain beliefs and so do I. I would say most couples cant really work out anything on the same views.

Answer 6

The most is cheating, breaking up and getting back together.We know we love each other and don't want to leave one another, but the fact that he has been unfaithful and I thinking I wanted to move on with my life, found another man and tried to live separate from him. When we argue that is one of the things that come up. We can't seem to get past the fact that it was in the past. That is why I get so steamed up about people having an affair. I left my relationship to rebound for another one. But just as I do... he keep thinking that I tossed him aside to be with someone else and that someone was in a place with me and she with him.

Answer 7

We lost a child in May of last year. Caused me to go into depression, caused him to go into a bottle (or many).
The loss of that child almost caused a divorce. I had moved out, and he had moved on.
Now, he is better, thanks to God, and we are working through everything. Even expecting a new arrival in a few months, things are better than ever.
Problems have a way of working themselves out in a way you can't see right now, but even if it seems that it won't, time will change everything.

Answer 8

Not having enough money to be out on our own. Past bills, health problems, and other obstacles keep us from getting ahead. Living with parents (of one or the other's) is not the best for a relationship, but it is something we have learned as a couple to deal with.

Answer 9

Step children; The step parent finding what works when it comes to reward and discipline. It seemed to me that I had the responsibility of raising the child, but I had to work for the authority, both with the child and with the child's birth parents. Time and consistency was my solution.

Answer 10

My career sent me down a path of hard drinking. The drinking didn't seem to be a large issue until the communications started to shut down.
I refused to discuss my job because if I did my wife came up with all these know-it-all answers like "Well I'll tell you what I'd do..I'd...etc, and stupid comments that the actual result in following her advice would have left me in the unemployment line.
There were times I needed to talk about my job and she just wouldn't listen. She'd always cut me off with some mean comment that would shut me right down and I'd refuse to talk about it anymore. After one particular week of sitting down together because she and I started the wheels rolling for a divorce (both of us had started to seek out attorneys) we talked, pointed out civilly what we saw as one another's bad points and vowed to give it one more try and make it work.
It was difficult for both of us but we pulled it off and have been happy since.

Answer 11

authority at home.i feel i dont have enough voice when it comes to decisions at home.but my husband always assure "everything is under control"and it freak me out.i feel that i am less superior in anything and i resent it and makes me unhappy but my husband never understood.i dont want the authority i just want to feel that i am important and my ideas are heard.i just want to be a part of every decision at home because after all il be part of the result of that decision.but maybe he is right that everything is under control because were now together for 12 long years and never had anything major bad decision so far.