how can i console her??

Question

my freind is only 15 years old and she just took a pregnancy test that came out positive and she is really scared how can i console her oh and also were not sure it says if there are 2 lines you are pregnant but the second line is not as dark does that still mean she is??

Answer 1

Two lines means pregnant no matter how faint one of them are.
You can only be there for her and try to not sway her on any decision she has to make regarding her pregnancy. Just listen and try to not give advise unless you have been in a similar situation.
You can however tell her how important safe sex practices are now and in the future.

Answer 2

If it showed up that way immediately, yes, it probably is a positive reading. However, if it didn't show up immediately, and a few hours later you looked at it and it turned up with a second very light line, that's not a very clear reading.

She can always take the test again, to be sure.

The best way you can console her is to let her know you're there for her, ask her if she wants to talk to anyone (a counselor, someone at Planned Parenthood, a teacher she trusts, etc.) and be there for her when she needs you.

I'm pro-life and probably wouldn't actually tell a friend this, but tecnhically, she does have the option of abortion, and you can remind her of that. Also, there are LOTS of people who are unable to have children, but could provide her child with a good home and family, and she could possibly even keep up with how her child is doing. Look in your yellow pages under "Adoption" or under "Abortion Alternatives" if adoption is a way she would want to go. There are other options, if she just doesn't feel she can raise a child on her own.

Best of luck to your friend, and to you.

Answer 3

When you have a faint line you want to take the test again. It could false but more than likely its not. I dont know what your beliefs are but you should talk her into something like adoption or something and tell her to get on some birth control. She should tell her mom but it depends on what her mom is like though. You should really push for adoption and try to find out where she can get birthcontrol at. Its hard to be that young and have a baby you have experienced the world and its not fair to do that with a child. Thats why I think adoption is the best way.

Answer 4

I know exactly what she is going threw i was 16 when i got pregnant. the only thing you can do is let her know that you will be there for her and explain that she needs to see a doctor i know its scary but the doctor wont say anything to her parents ,she needs to be the one to do that, the doctor will give her all her options if she does decide to keep her baby there are ways she can finish school, if she chooses to give the baby up they have open adoption where she can still be apart of her baby's life but take care of her self, and there is abortion. She really needs to talk to a doctor and you seem like you are a good friend and she will probably need some one to go with her. my best friend went with me to every appointment you would really be a big help if you let her know you are there e mail me if you want to talk more [e-mail]

Answer 5

She's pregnant. If even a FAINT line shows up, she's pregnant.

The only thing that you can really do for her is be her friend. Offer to be there when she tells her parents, and do some reseach on her options (she may not be able to concentrate on them) so that you can help her make the best decision.

In the future, I hope that she is more careful.

Answer 6

Be there for her. Remind her she has more than one option. There are different ways to put a baby up for adoption. She may choose, with help from parents, to keep baby. My question is, was she a willing participant in the act? How old is the boy? She needs to tell these things to her parents. She needs to be upfront with them. If this is a huge mistake, she needs to tell them that. Show responsibility for her mistake. She should have ideas about what to do when she goes to parents but still be open to their input. Don't yell. If she doesn't agree with them, she needs to cool off and then go to them calmly to talk with them. She has to grow up fast now. Be a good friend and don't judge. Just listen and hug her when she needs it. Thanks for asking! You are showing what a good friend you are.

Answer 7

yes she still is. a faint line, is a postiive result. Well tell her its a blessin from the lord (cuase babys are ) and that wit hhard work and perserverance she can still get an education and get a degree, and that she will be young when her kids leave the house so she will have a lot of time to herself while she is still young.

Answer 8

Just be her friend thats all you can do and make sure she tells her mom because if she really is pregnant, she needs doctor care now for the baby. The worse thing your friend can do is try to hide it from her mom becaus it could hurt the baby.

Answer 9

It can still be yes and you need to tell your friend she did this to herself what is she doing having sex at 15 years old she can't even vote yet? I don't understand teenagers and its not been that long since I was on. She needs to tell her parents.I also hope this showed you as her frienda thing or two about doing something your too young for the consequences for.

Answer 10

if your friend thinks she is pregnant, she should go and see a doctor, they can confirm it for her. then if she is pregnant, the best thing you can do is be supportive, help her tell her parents, go with her to the doctor, talk to her (let her talk to you) about her feelings and options. talk to your own mum about the situation, she will be able to help you understand some of your friends needs, understand the way your friends parents might react and maybe even be able to talk to and help your friend as well. good luck