Even though your husband is right next to you. For the past two weeks I am being feeling like I'm just so lonely, that I cry my self to sleep. Sometimes he doesn't even notice or just choose to ignore me. I don't know if all this mood changes are just because of my pregnancy or he is just not into me.
I feel like I'm drowning and he is just there watching me drown.
2007-02-26 04:52:02 · 16 answers · asked by hayde_kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OlderbutW- thanks, that is just how I feel. It seem that he only gets close when he wants sex and then rolls over and falls sleep. =(
2007-02-26 05:01:29 · update #1
Thank you all, I'm going to take your advice and let him know how I feel.
2007-02-26 05:28:05 · update #2
I Don't know if this is really my place to answer this question, as I am not a female, but I am a husband and father. During her first pregnancy my wife went throught the same type of behavior, and in her case it too happened at night. She confessed that she had feelings of loneliness and isolation. She did not volunteer this information to me, in fact i came after a few times questioning. I am not by any means a sensitive guy, or a pyschologist. But, I don't think your feelings are abnormal, in fact I think they are quite common exspecially, after pregnancy. Your feelings can come from nervousness and anxiety about the upcoming birth. Your feelings may also come from vibes your husband gives off. It is very difficult for the man in this situation too. As far as intimacy, men are often nervous about hurting their wife or unborn baby during periods of intimacy. Also, subconsciously as men adapt to viewing you as a mother and also get use to your changing body they can become intimadated which leds to lack of interest. So he may notice you and may want to help you but either feels insecure or helpless himself.
Therefore, you can either chose to open up to your husband, and discuss your feelings, which may led to a small rough patch. As men we are programmed from childhood to be men, and no man wants to hear about his inadquecies (i.e he is doing a lousy job listening, or caring for you). Eventually, he will get over it a may change. When talking with him try to be sensitive to his feelings as he may be going through some of the same feelings you are. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your husband, than talk to your doctor. While these feelings may be normal they are not healthy for you or your baby. I hope this helps
2007-02-26 05:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by joe L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this you should talk to him and then make an appointment to see your doctor and tell the doc how you have been feeling I hope that you get feeling better by the way did you know that there is nothing more sexy than a pregnant woman the glow and that beautiful little baby growing inside you so cheer up sexy gal we are here for you.
2007-02-26 12:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 25 years, and for the most part, I was the loneliest man that ever slept in the bed with a woman. My bed felt like it was 10 feet wide....no touching, no warmth.....nothing but coldness! I know what you're going through, believe me, and I hurt for you. The sad part is, it never got better .....until she left. Now, I sleep alone, but I'm never lonely. Good Luck!!
2007-02-26 12:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men go through a pregnancy just like you do, in a different way but somewhat the same
you have been his number 1 for as long as you have been married, and he yours, now there is someone inside you that is going to take up 99% of your time and your love, which is ok...but to him, he has lost you he is no longer number 1
deal with it, it will pass when the baby is around for awhile
2007-02-26 13:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you are preggy women tend to be so emotional and I had the same thing when I was pregnant. Just cry if you want to and let it loose, don't be ashamed to show your hubby about it. He just probably needs to see it from you for him to support you in your current stage right now. Good luck with the baby though...
2007-02-26 12:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, I went through 3 1/2 years of feeling like that. And I wasn't pregnany. Why don't you talk to him about it. Tell him how you are feeling and ask him to work WITH you to finding an answer to how to get out of the rut!
2007-02-26 12:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say honey some people have no clue that's when you have to talk to them and find out what's really going on with them because he might just assume that your crying because he's heard your more emotionally when your pregnant which is true but if your feeling that bad then you need to make him aware of it. My heart goes out to you and congratulations on the new addition to your family. God Bless!
2007-02-26 13:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, always. The best way to stop that is to find someone you love with him or her loves you too. Good luck!!
2007-02-26 13:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by pingping 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? if you are pregnant, your moods and perceptions are like a roller coaster, it is your hormones acting up. hang in there, at least he is with you and not in a bar room looking around..
2007-02-26 12:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just your emotions dealing with your pregnancy.
2007-02-26 12:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋