For the first three months that he left, I have the children most of the time. He is a high powered banker so travels alot, etc. I then said, why not give him the kids most of the time. For two months, he had them three weeks a month, I had them one.
He complained, complained that I DIDN'T HAVE THE KID ENOUGH. The last three months I have had them most of the time because he has gone on ski vacations and away with his girlfriend ( who he lets stay over when the kids are with him but that is for another day). Anyway, starting this month, he has them one week, I have them the next, etc, etc, Monday to Monday. He now says that he doesn't like that schedule that I have the kids TOO MUCH and he is going to take me to court. Am I missing something?
2007-02-26 04:46:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Excuse me. Let me make this clear. Custody is now 50/50. One week with him, one week with me. From all of the cases that I have read, that is what they ususally do anyway.
It would be nice to hear from someone other than the new wives.
2007-02-26 04:54:05 · update #1
Leanne apparently can't read
2007-02-26 04:58:23 · update #2
I would get a legal mediator and have that person write up a document once you two come to angreement. There are people in the legal system that are authorized to do this, as the courts are busy and rather you settle this out of court. The document is legal. Look into that, as I really think you need to get this situation mediated and finalized. For your kids sake, and your sanity!
2007-02-26 04:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to court and it doesn't matter who he has stay with his kids because when they are with him, as long as they are not getting abused then it is none of your business who he has with them.
So what does he want? Does he want the 3 weeks a month or just to ***** about it. If you go to court against him then he is like I want them more, he needs to realize once it is set in stone that he has to live up to that until your children decide or he gets it formally changed. Also did you have a settlement regarding child custody and support when you got divorced if that is what happened? What did the settlement say, maybe he doesn't want to spend the money on child support and thinks that by having the kids more than you he will pay less, which is sadly not true. Unless he gets physical custody he will still have to pay you the amount rather the kids are with him or you. Yeah it is kind strange but that is the way it works But yes you said that he is high powered, meaning he probably has money and a good lawyer and so he does have a chance to have the kids more, but I don't know if he will actually get it or if he does if he will like it.
2007-02-26 13:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kids currently live with you he will have to prove that you are not a good parent to be able to get them.(at least that's how it is in my state.) I would go talk to an attorney just to be safe. It sounds to me like he only wants the kids when its convenient for him, and he is only doing this to hurt you. He shouldn't have the new girlfriend staying the night when the kids are there either and I would bring that up in court too.
2007-02-26 14:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by hippie_chick69love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your situation but who I hurt most for are your children. It makes me so mad when the adults just up and do whatever, not once thinking about their kids. If your husband or ex husband is the cause of your splitting, then let him take you to court and convince the judge that the children are better of with you. It is their future and well being you must be concerned with. They have suffered enough already and need stability once more.
2007-02-26 12:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first no one should have the kids they should have you both kids arnt property what ever parent they live with should allow the child to call and go when the child wants to no other way weekends bogus you two split the child didnt he is not 'the kid' hes your child and he still loves both of you you dont have the right to fight over him and so what if dads g/f is there get over it should his life stop you are giving him a hard time cause he found a woman I feel sorry for the little guy come to your senses share your child before he whoops you in court and you hurt your child I am discusted that it has to be so ugly
2007-02-26 12:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Leanne B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to put your foot down make a schedule and stick to it.. you both do not realize that you are really confusing the kids here.. Maybe the new g/f is pushing for him to have the kids who knows.. But you need to set a schedule and stick to it.. Because of the way things have been between the two of you they may let him have the kids they may not.. You need to get a lawyer and ask them
2007-02-26 12:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, as he is not doing anything physically harmful to the children, and he appears to have plenty of money, you are most likely in for a tough battle.
If you don't have an attorney, you need to get one fast. And a good one.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-26 12:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you are, his new girlfriend probably left him for somebody who has more time and kindness to give her so now he's feeling alone lonesome and unloved !! Seriously, bet that what's happened................ now he'd like nothing more than to be have all his spare moments consumed with the constant chatter of the mini me's................ maybe he misses you 2??? Do you miss him 2??................... I think u do.......... or not...... your call....
PEACE
............. :0)
2007-02-26 12:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by Minx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋