Every weekend my husband finds every reason not to stay home for the weekend. The strange thing is that I dont miss him I actually enjoy my space without him been there. We have been married for 11 years.
2007-02-26 04:35:18 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am scared we might be drifting apart. He shows a lot of excitement when he sees me, but I dont feel the same way. Any suggestions abut what I can do about the situation.
2007-02-26 04:43:43 · update #1
Well then whats the problem? Are you worried about where he's going? If you don't like the situation now - tell him! Tell him you want to make time for the two of you...that you both can still enjoy your alone time - but you want to make an effort to start doing somethings as a couple.
2007-02-26 04:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you sound perfectly fine with it so whats the problem? I mean you dont even sound jealous or suspicious of his disappearances on weekends? I mean i guess as long as you know where he is at and if he is with buddies not another woman then its perfectly fine to enjoy your space with no worries. Now if have no idea of where he is at and he dont ever put you in business of what is he or was up to on a weekend then there are some serious alarms. And trust me your 11 years of marriage wont mean a thing once you let it go and slide through your fingers when you are perfectly fine to over look things just so you have your own space.
2007-02-26 04:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both my be enjoying your space away form each other - there is nothing written in stone that couples have to be with each other 24/7. People that do stay with each other 24/7 are painfully insecure. Unless you feel that he may be cheating on you, then I think you two are fine with your current arrangement.
However, do you want it to change? Is that why you are asking the question? If so, then you have to talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. Be nice about it, be cool and let him know how you perceive his staying out all weekend and then let him know what you want him to do in order to spend more time with you. Perhaps you can come to some kind of arrangement - like he can go out every other weekend, so you at least get half his time. Talk to him - see what happens.
Good luck!!
2007-02-26 04:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are the other signs? It is unusuall for a guy to be gone EVERY weekend. Being married 11 years, he may be having an affair. On one hand it may be a fling and he still loves you, on the other he might also be getting emotionally involved.
Do you enjoy your space enough to tolerate it if he is having a fling? Is the sex good at home?
If he is having a fling, invite your boyfriends over for nsa fun times.
2007-02-26 04:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rick C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're drifting apart, why not make plans for every second weekend together?
Otherwise, if you're happy with the current situation, just keep things the way they are.
2007-02-26 05:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By NOT staying home do you mean he goes out Friday night and returns on Sunday night or that he just goes out like during the day? The reason I ask is it would make a difference if he were to leave on Friday night and come home Sunday night. But I myself go out almost every weekend during the day on my bike. I do come home at night but during the day is another story. My old lady doesn't like the bike so she stays home. It works for us and I like you, have been married for 11 years too.
2007-02-26 04:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Test the waters for you both. He might be doing something behind your back without you knowing it even though you feel ok about him being out on weekends. Also, if he gets excited about you that might mean that he still loves you. There's just a gap that you both might need to patch up
2007-02-26 04:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its not a problem for you - then don't let it become one. SOunds to me like you both need your space and its working fine. Keep the lines of communications open between the two of you and you'll probably be married for 11 more years!
2007-02-26 04:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by KATHY A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, heh.....welcome to the club. Married 23 and if the wife wanders away on a Sturday or Sunday for whatever reason I find the solitude relaxing.
In all actuality I have more private time for myself as well. Its healthy.
2007-02-26 04:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you don't mind him being gone then what is your issue. I personally would not go for that. If you are married, then you should be at home with your family. That is how I feel
2007-02-26 04:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋