14 Years age gap will it last????

Question

Me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, and we are very happy. But i am 20 and he is 34, i have so many worries about weather we will last because of such a big age gap, will i change? will i resent him? we are so good together but were will we be in 20 years? any advise would be great? or anyone been through this? xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh no dont get me wrong i LOVE him sooooooooooooooooooooooo much, he has done so much for me he really has, he has helped me grow so much, it isnt my doubt that gets in the way, its other people doubt. Like i found out that his brother said to someone that he does not think we will last and that hurt me and got me worrying. Thats why i wanted an opinion of a mutual person, thanks for all your advise know xxxxxx

Answer 1

Your relationship can last but it may take some extra effort on your part, just like any relationship will. I believe that the older a person gets the more they worry about everything.

My husband is only 3 years older than I, but because of the way he was brought up he acts like he's 15 years older then me! Since he was young he has worried about everything from 'age'(how long will he live) to 'zzzzz's(getting enough)' and often gets sick from this worry. He even told my Mom that I shouldn't marry him because he was going to die when he was 32 years old(he's almost 60 now)!

I've learned not to worry about the things he worries about(he does more then enough for the two of us), to live each day as it comes, to keep looking to the future not the past, not to worry about the things I can't change, and to keep a smile on my face.
Over 36 years have passed since we got married and I find that I worry less about little things in our lives and have learned(by observing my husband) what big things in life need to be worried about. Good luck and happiness for your future!

Answer 2

There is always the possibility that it could last. I would say though that if you are having questions now, that most likely it won't. There are many things that are lining up against you as a couple. For one, you are awfully young. I got married at 21 to a guy who was 5 years older than me and it did not work out. I think that 20 is so young to settle down. You have so much of life to experience! I tell everyone I know that they need to live on their own at least once before they commit to someone for the rest of their lives. Also, do you both want children? Is he ready now, but you aren't? Does he hold you back from doing and accomplishing the things that you want, or does he totally support you? I am with someone now who is 8 years older than me, but we have the same interests, goals, etc. and we have both sown our wild oats! :) Also, I am a little bit older and wiser than I was at 21. Good luck!

Answer 3

So good together can mean a lot of things. Is he concerned about your future? You say you are 20! Is he focused on what and who you will be in the next 20 years? Or is he good for you because he makes you feel like a woman intimately. I don't mean to be rude because many older men choose young ladies like yourself to take advantage of cause the older ones smell their game before they speak. But if he's more concerned about your future than the fact that you're a tenderoni, show him you're a mature woman and things will last for you two.
I wish you only the best. Remember be as independent as you possibly can cause you never know.

Answer 4

top now it sort of sounds like a great deal, yet in some years it won't rely. think of roughly it this way, might it extremely be a difficulty in case you have been 32 and married to a 30 12 months previous guy? maximum persons does no longer even think of two times approximately it. the ingredient is, that often speaking there's a great distinction in adulthood between childrens that are 2 years aside, yet whilst he's greater mature than the prevalent sixteen 12 months previous guy (meaning intellectually, emotionally, etc, no longer bodily), then there extremely isn't any difficulty.

Answer 5

I havent been through it but if your bloke is willing to let you grow as a person and accept changes in you as you grow then i dont see why not. Make sure you keep similar interests i.e hobbies and stuff you can do together and then you will always have something in common. There will be no need to resent him if he doesnt stifle your personality as you find yourself. I am not being patronizing its just i changed a lot in my 20's as i think most people do. Talk to him about your worries, Good luck x

Answer 6

If u both really love each other, then believe me, age really doest matter. Usually, why does age matter? people predict that, for the gapping of age there will be lacking of understanding. But, if u both love each other, u both will always try to sacrifice for each other...so, may be there will be generation gap, problems of understanding(may b!), but for the reason of true love u both will try to sacrife for each other and will try to understand - even u cant understand ur partners mentality(in any case), u will sacrife, right? So, age really really really doesnt matter. And, i believe, mature male partner is 1000 times better than any same aged of inmatured partner, coz, the way he wil take care of ur self, no one can do that. And, he will be as ur parents as well as ur friend, boy-friend and a loving husband. Some one mature partner means a lot to me, i feel like it's like a roof on head.....
All the best, inshallah.

Answer 7

My sister has been married to a man 14 years her senior for 25 years...they seem pretty happy and have, to my knowledge, no serious issues. You have to make sure you cover all the bases, such as, children, retirement, goals, etc. You need to talk to each other about these issues before settling into a life long commitment.

Answer 8

I've been married to a man that is 15 years younger than me. We've been together for 14 years and are happier now that when we first got together.
You are still young so you're still changing and forming opinions and ideas of what you want in a relationship.
Enjoy this relationship. Take it nice and slow. You have your entire life to find your soul mate. You may have even found him. Just don't rush into marriage!

Answer 9

I haven't been through this but I think you two will last as long as you want it too last.
If you two keep love and communication in your marriage, no matter how big the age gap is, you will remain in love and your marriage will last!

True, that a large gap, but how large is the love? That's all that matters. Trust, love, communication, and prayer - even if you are not a religious person, prayer comes in handy in a marriage!

I hope this helped and wish you the best ♥

Answer 10

If you're so happy, why are you looking for reasons to sabotage the happiness by finding fault with it? Let me guess: You don't think you deserve to be this happy and need some drama to make life seem more realistic, like the stuff you see on TV?!