How do you tell your parents about something like this?

Question

You are thirteen and you are friends with a guy who is eighteen, he comes around alot and likes to shake your hand every time you guys meet up even thought you guys may meet up about ten times in a day (at one location). One day you were in the basement, he turns off the lights and sits you on his lap but begins to tickle you. When you up stairs your godmother suspects you guys are doing something but you can't talk cause you are feel werid.You talk a break and push him away for a while. He turns 19 on the 4 of this month, he meets you after you have to do something for the church, you notice every time he mets up with you he wants to touch your waist and stomach and begin to feel even more uncomtforable. What should or would you do? And should you tell your parents?

We were friends but now I dont know, he pulled me on to his lap, I didn't try to sit on his lap and I didn't try to get off cause I didn't know if he would more than what he had done.

We aren't always alone when he does it

I have an older brother but I dont really know him, I have only seen him once

When I get uncomfortable, I know it right away cause my heart feels like it is in my throat. I can't say anything, my mouth will be open bt you wont hear anything. I begin to feel very cold and my stomach beings to hurt and now a days when I am with him even if he just says 'Hi' thats how I feel.

My grandfather and his mother are friends, we were friends when we were younger and have been ever since. I don't think he knows that I feel uncomfortable around him because I haven't told him, I am afaird to. And yes, I am the thirteen year old. I don't think I can live with any man mistreating me....

Answer 1

Yes, you should tell your parents immediately. This guy is a pedophile. Steer clear of him!!!

Answer 2

first of all, if you are uncomfortable, then he has over stepped his boundaries. (I am 24 and have been in this situation before when I was 16) You need to tell him to back off. You need to tell your parents about him also. It is not legal for him to be all over you like that. You are only 13 and that is not right. You are a kid. he was 6 years old when you were born. Just tell your parents that you feel uncomforatble around this guy and need to know what to do. They will help you threw this. If you are hounest with your parents right from the beginning, then things will be easier, and your parents will have more respect for you.

Answer 3

Tell him to stop touching you, and that it makes you nervous and uncomfortable, he he tries saying something like Ohh I'm just having fun, tell him the fun is over. If he does it again tell someone. Specially if you have an older brother, he might want to kick the **** out of someone, I know that's what I did when someone bugged my sister. This goof should find some friends his own age, he will probably grow up to be a child molester or something!

Answer 4

I can understand if you are unsure about telling someone, it is a scary situation to be in, but yes you should definitely tell your parents........just explain what has been going on, that his actions are making you uncomfortable , your parents will know how to deal with it, and if on the chance that they don't believe you...tell someone else........a trusted adult a cop a teacher or a guidance counsellor until you find someone that listens to what you are saying.........it may be touching now but could lead to more and being uncomfortable now you have to tell someone so it can be stopped before it goes any further......

Answer 5

I'm with everyone else who keeps posting, but if you do not feel comfortable telling your parents, then tell some adult (priest/pastor whoever is at your church, councelor etc). You should probably take legal actions after that. If he keeps touching you, yell at him. Tell him to leave you alone. Make sure you yell and are stern and as serious as possible. Maybe that will get through to him. Tell him you want him to stay away from you. Good luck I hope you tell someone and get this straightened out.

Answer 6

You must tell your parents or another adult as soon as possible - try not to be left alone with him - if he does touch you again and you feel uncomfortable at all, tell him that you do not like it and tell him to stop - but you MUST tell somebody about this - if you cannot talk to your parents write it on a note and say that you are afraid but you need to tell them about this - This man is an adult and what he is doing is very very wrong

Answer 7

This guy is only friends with you to take advantage of your youth and inexperience. How did you meet him? You should not have any friends over 16. Even at your age 16 is old. You should definitely tell your parents. They need to have a heart to heart with you about guys. Once guys hit 12 they have a one track mind..and that is taking advantage of girls. Be very very careful of being alone with this 19 year old guy, you will find yourself in lots of awkward situations with him. He may even push you to do things you don't want to do. Don't put yourself in that position. Him touching you is not okay. Please stay clear of him..he is no good and up to no good. I know that it is hard to see this but coming from a 20 year old with experience, please take my advise. The things he tells you and the attention he gives may feel good, and I know it is hard for you to see his bad side, but that's why you need to tell your parents. They will protect you.

Answer 8

You are right to be concerned. That little voice inside you is telling you something. You shouldn't meet this guy alone. He want something that you are not ready for. You can tell your parents if you think that will help you make sure you are not along with him.

Now that I saw your additional comments, you should definitely tell your parents. You shouldn't have to be in such a awkward situation. And don't be shy about telling this guy NO!

Answer 9

If this person who is thirteen and is being approached through stealthily . . and can not fully judge this almost 19 year old man's tactics to be predatory . . then I would advice TELLING YOUR PARENTS!!!
At thirteen one is terribly vulnerable for many reasons - even when one could be harmed by a savvy older person who should better know his place and the respect he owes others, especially people under age.
This nearly 19 year old rascal is trying to get slowly at you, and through your confusion or delay of action, he is gaining distance to you.
Do not let this person harm you.
Already, your instincts are telling you this rascal is "up to no good!"
Act wisely and diligently before he can hurt you.
Does he not know the penalties he would face if he did hurt you, even through your confused and manipulated consent?
Does he so much desire a stint in jail?
And ask yourself, if you are this thirteen year old or if this is a friend of yours . . will you be able to handle the consequences of this man's PRESENT, emotional abuse, should they become
physically abusive as well?
Do not take as a compliment what is abuse and manipulation disguised in harmless play!

Answer 10

I know you're uncomfortable telling your parents the details, but this is what you should do: tell you parents that this guy makes you feel very uncomfortable because he's too "touchy feely". They'll know what you mean. Also NEVER be alone with him, you'll end up regretting it. You have your whole life ahead of you to need to worry about a horrible event like rape to ruin your future.
1) Tell your parents that he makes you feel uncomfortable becaus ehe touches you a lot
2) NEVER be in a place alone with him.
Good for you to ask. Girls have to watch for user boys who use girls like a piece of toilet paper and then toss them aside like trash.

Answer 11

You're not feeling very good about this because it's NOT RIGHT. An eighteen year old has absolutely no right to be touching a thirteen year old like that. He is a pedophile plain and simple. Please tell your parents, it really is the best thing to do.