my husband has been calling me and wanting to work things out and his wife came by the hous as well we bothe are filing for a divorce so should i have waited or keep fpoolwimg my heart
2007-02-26 04:05:04 · 18 answers · asked by wendy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bad move on you and the boyfriend's part. Why? You'll see. No good will come of this if the significant others from either of you are coming around.
2007-02-26 04:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both you and your boyfriend are filing for divorce, and you have obviously already come to an agreement to live together, I would say keep on going.
You remind me of neighbors I had about ten years ago. They met another couple at a church outing, and became friends. Then they became more than friends, and eventually the wives decided the y liked the other couples husbands, and vice versa.
Things progressed and both couples divorced their respective spouses, then married the opposite one. I was best man at one wedding.
It turned out well for all of them, and they are all still married to their new partners today.
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2007-02-26 04:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ef Ervescence 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Following your heart" is how you ended up in a position where you are filing for a divorce while living with a man who is not your husband. What a mess. It seems that you have not learned anything and are, most likely, headed for more pain.
You haven't taken any extended time to get to know who you are. Until you do that you will be doomed to repeat your mistakes.
2007-02-26 04:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was way too soon to move in together! You should wait at least 1-2 years after the end of a committed relationship to get involved in another serious relationship.
Alas, you're already living together. Do you have regrets about your marriage? Do you want to reconcile?
Be honest with yourself. If you really do see a future with your new boyfriend, then follow your heart.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 05:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, one should wait awhile for a new relationship, before the old or current is still in tact.
It sounds like you may have a low self esteem or not feel secure.
You should go and get your own place, work on YOU and your heart and see if the BF is still there when you think you have it all figured out.
GOOD LUCK!! It is however a LIFE experience to feel you can be a strong person on your own!
2007-02-26 04:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dint proply get ur qs but al try!lol:
you should have given them more time coz he was married at the time u married him.... i cant trust to keep a relationship with a married man.. if hes willing to mary another woman whilst already in wedlock then wont he do that to the other girl hes just married?
witht his you should have given yourself time too coz once you both were divorced it would have been clearer. you are probably asking this qs here coz uve gt a guilty feeling .....
the more ud stay away from them, theyd porbs have sorted things out n gt togethre again(no offence but u knw waat i mean- on a logical view) but anywa,... nway nw u cant cry over spilt milk init..
i think you played a selfish 2nd wife act here, and should have waited till he was divorced.
2007-02-26 04:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband obviously still loves you ? do you love him ? you must if your having second thoughts? woman go thru a change two three times a year ?when the weather gets warm, then again when it gets cold ? they think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence ? so women jump it ?and usally regret doing it ? as soon as the husband hooks up with another woman? do what you think you should do? and then live with your life ?
2007-02-26 04:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by schuety1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHat the hell??
I can barely figure this out, but it sounds like a total mess. I suggest you take a vow of celibacy and stay away from everyone.
2007-02-26 04:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be single to be together and though it hurts you both need to be alone you need to really think about what you are doing and why I would suggest you go talk to a counselor about what is going on you do need to be on your own right now
2007-02-26 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have gotten a divorce before getting a new man and moving in with him that is wrong no matter which way you look at it
2007-02-26 04:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋