I never ever thought i could be unfaithful to my husband, but now it is happening and i felt like a complete woman for the first time. My lover's ways in bed & the way he makes me feel special is so great that he makes my husband seem inferior. I love my husband, he is a good man, but having welcomed this new guy into my life has opened my eyes into the realization that i am missing a deep intimacy & sexual satisfaction that a married woman should feel. Shall i carry on with my affair? Shall i stop? How can i resist giving myself to this wonderful lover of mine? Should i tell my husband?
2007-02-26 03:57:40 · 32 answers · asked by Len R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And is it okay to be kissed often in my armpits? My lover finds my odour there as very feminine & addictive, and i feel so aroused whenever he's doing. But i worry about the marks. Can kissmarks destroy my skin's complexion there?
2007-02-26 04:00:55 · update #1
Your husband deserves better. You have to tell him or live a lie. Chances are, your marriage won't last anyway, so tell him BEFORE he comes home to his "devoted&loving wife"...and get a dictionary so you don't sound so hypocritical. You seem to be more concerned about your armpit kisses than your future ex-husbands feelings. Nobody deserves that kind of deception.
2007-02-26 04:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you were devoted and loving you would not be carrying on an affair with another man. You should wait until your husband gets home and tell him face to face and beg his forgiveness. Cheating is never good. The lust you feel now will fade eventually and you will have nothing left. You promised your husband not to be intimate with anyone else for better or for worse. As for the armpit situation, I think your lover is weird and probably has an armpit fetish. He'll probably drop you like a hot potato when he wants someone else. You have not been smart to cheat.
2007-02-26 04:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The bible says stolen waters are sweet. Yeah it may seem fun now but let me assure you it is an allusion. The best thing for you to do is get out of the mess you have made for yourself now before u get in too deep. Your husband doesn't deserve your unfaithfulness especially if he has been faithful to you. Wake up girlfriend it's not all what you think it is. Been there and done that believe me you will regret it in the long run. Either you want your marriage and you will stop this foolishness or you tell your husband that you don't want him move on with your lover and see how long it last, probably not long when he knows you don't have to sneak anymore. Grow up sex outside of marriage is a sin and it is called ADULTERY! You may wanna read the bible and see what God has to say about it!
2007-02-26 04:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arie 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but I'm not convinced you're a loving wife and you certainly are not devoted. Just read what you wrote. If you had any respect for your husband or your marriage you would stop. Well, if you had any respect for your husband or your marriage you wouldn't be having an affaor. Also, the guy you are having this adulterous affair with is not your love. He's your sack-buddy. He's a good lay. Your husband is your lover. I hope you have no children.
2007-02-26 04:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean like abroad as in gone? IF he is gone in the military and you are cheating on him? Then your not a devoted and loving wife. If you were devoted and loving then you wouldn't be cheating on your husband.
I'm sure you could have talked to your husbands about the way he wasn't able to satisfy you and he could have fixed it. But, if he is in the military and you are cheating while he is protecting our country...What the heck are you thinking?
I would say stop the affair NOW! Also, I would tell your husband so he knows what kind of lying cheating wife he has so he can make the decision if he wants to keep you around or not. Because, if I were him, I wouldn't!
2007-02-26 04:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I hope your husband dumps ya. You should leave your husband at the very least, he doesn't deserve this any more than you would if it was he cheating on you. Leave him now and pick up with your lover. And he can the holy heck out of your armpits and anywhere else he wants to suck. He can start with your backside.
2007-02-26 04:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had you not cheated youd never known there was any other than your spouse and he would have been enough for you what youve done is awful your husband although not as great in the sack loved you this jerk is getting sex and hes dispicable another mans wife lowdown your a booty call sex doesnt last forever.If i were in your shoes id beg my husband for mercy and hope he didnt spit in my eye but then id never do it and destroy a good man
2007-02-26 04:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Leanne B 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
One...its sex with someone new. Thats all...nothing more. Nor should you try and make anything more of it than what it is. The urge to fulfill sexual needs.
Your initial statement of "I'm a loving and devoted wife" is not true. Far from it. I do not condemn for this. After all...we are all human and all imperfect. However you look like an idiot by prefacing your sentence with such an inane and thoughtless remark such as this. I would suggest you tender your words abit more carefully before allowing them to fall from your lips.
2007-02-26 04:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Vows are very important just remember that...........don't do anything to hurt your husband and your family you may regret it but it's your life and you make the decisions but the poor guy had not did anything wrong you don't want to lose a good man for someone that may turn out to be a loser
2007-02-26 04:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by sexsired 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I really truly hope there's no children involved. Because children come first. And what kind of an example would you be giving them? Now, if you didn't feel sexually satisfied with your husband, you should've just told him. There's many things a couple can do to increase their intimacy, but I can tell you that intimacy is IMPOSSIBLE if there is no communication. Well, the only thing I can advise you to do is come clean. Really. What will you do when your husband gets back? Are you gonna start setting up secret rendez-vous and sneaking in and out to see him? At first it might be "manageable" for you. But sooner or later, you'll be so tangled up in your web of lies, you won't be able to keep them all straight! You might even "slip-up" one day and kiss this guy in public and what if someone sees you? You want your husband to find out from other people that his wife is being unfaithful??
I mean, what is your long-term plan? Don't fool yourself into thinking you are "in control" of the situation. You are not. And are you with this guy purely for the sex? What happens if you fall in love with him too? Then what? Look you're really hurting your husband and for the sake of the love that you once had for him, come clean. No one deserves being decieved like that.
I know that I know nothing about you or your life but I can guarantee you that affairs NEVER end up happily. Someone will always get hurt. So, do me a favor and grow up! Put you're libido and raging hormones on hold just for ONE day, put your thoughts in order, and tell your husband the truth. Who knows, he may be so mad at you, he might divorce you on the spot and then you can be FREE to pursue your irresponsable mid-life crisis at your fancy.
And please don't tell me you still love your husband.True love is always faithful. You know, they say love covers a multitude of sins. Perhaps your husband will still love you enough to work things out with you. But you need to put the ball in HIS court. I'm sorry to say, but it's no longer your choice whether you care to save this marriage or not. I think your answer became quite clear whe you cheated on him.
Now you need to face the fact that you may lose him AND maybe even your lover. I'm sorry, but you need to accept the consequences of your actions.
I highly recommend you watch the movie "UNFAITHFUL" with Richard Gere and Diane Lane. It's a realistic look into unfaithfulness and the devastating toll it takes on everyone. Please watch it. Keep us posted.
2007-02-26 04:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋