He said he refuses to get one because it will be painful, and I really want to respect his wishes, but we have three young babies at home. We are done having children, and he thinks I should be the one to get "fixed". I have been unable to take hormonal birth control for health reasons. What should I do?
2007-02-26 03:48:05 · 19 answers · asked by Kayla 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a vasectomy after our third child and it was a great decision. It's wonderful not to have to worry about birth control and unwanted pregnancy! There is no pain during the procedure, because they use a local anesthetic. Furthermore, the physician will then prescribe pain medication (we're not talking ordinary Tylenol here). I'd have to say I only experienced a little pain for about 2 days, which was very well treated by the medication. I had it done on a Friday and I didn't even have an excuse not to return to work the following Monday. In short, the pain/trauma was WAY less than my wife went through giving birth! So, challenge him -- ask him if he can't even endure some pain that's less than what YOU endured.
2007-02-26 03:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him all the different reasons you do not want to get your tubes tied and what not. Also, as long as you two are planning on staying together forever, mabye you both should look into getting "fixed". I will say this though, often it's easier for a woman to have her surgery right after she has her last baby. It's not very painful for guys and it's actually less dangerous.
2007-02-26 04:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to make out a list, on the list put your name on one side his on the other, with some facts, place on the list under the appropriate name..like cost of each operation, recovery time, whether help will be needed to care for the children during recovery, success rates on the surgeries, his being done in the doctors office could be done sooner than yours having to go into a surgical facility...if the operation isn't done soon, another child could be on the way...my brother was the same as your husband and my sister-in-law decided no sex until he agreed and the pain of not getting any outweigh the pain of having it done, but he said it wasn't nearly as uncomfortable as he thought it was going to be...besides she told him if she had it done they wouldn't have any sex for 6 weeks, just like having a baby and he would be able to have it as soon as he felt like it, that help persuade him too
2007-02-26 04:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the room when my husband had his vasectomy, it wasn't a big deal. Try to talk him into getting a consult - make an agreement with him - if he goes for the consult and after talking with the doctor is still too afraid to get it done, then you'll get your tubes tied (only tell him this if you are willing to do it). I think once his fears are put to rest by the doctor he'll be o.k. with getting it done.
2007-02-26 03:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention to him that him getting fixed involves very little pain, is a much less invasive and dangerous procedure than a woman getting fixed, and that his sex life will not be harmed. Vasectomies are very simple, outpatient procedures that are also very easily reversed if you later decide you want more. However, women cannot reverse their fixing.
Find out some benefits to vasectomies online and let him know! :-)
2007-02-26 03:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by eastbaywhatsername 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a diaphram. Their safe.
Why not get yourself "fixed"? IF having all the babies at home are driving you nuts, go get yourself fixed. It doesn't hurt all that bad. Just a sore tummy a couple days.
My last hubby refused to get fixed too. The doctor called him a few names! He bitched about the cost of me getting fixed, but thought it was better I go through it for 4,00 and him save his poor self from hurting a few days for only 75!!
MEN!!!! What babies!!!
2007-02-26 03:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let the doctor talk with him ,he will tell him that its better for him to get it then you ,because a woman has to go through so much to get her tubes tide .and who know you and he may want other kids once kids grow up a bit.if you are fixed you can,t have anymore kids unless you take the pill even then its hard to have kids again. not to mention all the weight gain that goes with taking the pill.
2007-02-26 03:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by annjilena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the fact that there are more complications to having your tubes tied than there are for him having a minor procedure like a vesectomy. That it's more of a risk for you and it's just a little discomfort for him.
2007-02-26 04:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show how much you love and trust him and that you really want to be the one with him for the rest of his life by getting your tubes tied first. Then, you can tell him that it's not that painful, and that if he follows suit you both will be able to enjoy sex without worrying about getting either pregnant or financially further in the hole from innocent fun...
2007-02-26 03:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hubby got one and he says it not painful your in and out in no time flat. He says its the best thing he could have done for the two of us. You did your part having kids now its his turn.
2007-02-26 03:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋