ok, so i can't say i really have a best friend or anything like that because I have high standards when it comes to determening who that is and a perfect situation for that is always when things are not that easy. now i'm learning not to depend on anyone on absolutely anything because it gets me down when i realize what i didn't want to. acquaintances are fine, i have those, but friends in the real sense of the word, i do not have.
2007-02-26 03:38:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Your words are very cool btw !! and after reading them i thought there's actually no need to ask this question then. many ppl walk out of our lives and that's something normal and happens everyday and it's a gr8 thing from u to learn not to depend on anyone cuz this is the only solution beside your moral courage.
2007-02-26 03:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect. Friends are hard to find, even family will let you down time and time again. SO the secret to having meaningful friendships is to not ask more of someone than they can give. To be a good friend yourself by forgiving those around you for their shortcomings.
We learn so much about ourselves from how we view others....be gentle, see the best in everyone (within reason-be safe) and when someone hurts you try to figure out where they are coming from....chances are it was that they were not able to see things from your perspective.
You need to learn to be all you can count on. This means try to be as true to yourself as you can....the more integrity you live with the easier it will be to spot in potential friends. Give your friends what you want in return. You know...."do unto others" rule.
If you had very loving parents like I did you may find that alot of the people out there never learned to care for others...they don't know how to be a good friend. Communication is so important when you feel hurt.So lovingly tell them your point of view, don't be judgmental, harsh or rude. Make all your choices out of love.
2007-02-26 11:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by someone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to find someon to depend on in absolutely every situation. But it takes 2 to tango. If you are that reticent to find a good friend, I'm sure you have missed opportunities for some great ones.
I'm picturing my best friend that I can trust in absolutely any situation. Then I'm imagining him interacting with a person that is somewhat closed off and skittish about opening up. Perhaps making it difficult to get close. And I imagine my friend choosing instead to spend time with other people that are immediately open to him and his presence.
I have no idea exactly what you are like, that's just what I imagine from your post.
2007-02-26 11:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you may not ever get used to it but it may help to remember that everyone has to make their own way in life and nothing is permanent....try to get the best out of people while you have them and they will give you good memories that may help you later on...
2007-02-26 11:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i got used to it.:) had too many ppl appear and then disappear i guess.... nowadays i don't even think they are my friends, easier that way:(
2007-02-26 11:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by VeronicaB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 1
you sure you dont have 1?
2007-02-26 11:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by loopy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone.
2007-02-26 11:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋