I need some advice on how to *nicely* talk about this to my doctor?

Question

Key word is nice... I'm 36 weeks pregnant and nice is getting harder and harder to come by lol. Ok I've mentioned this issue in a previous question but I now need some advice on how to speak to my OBGYN about it (without getting VERY upset). I have been induced all three times I have given birth. Due to extenuating circumstances I have had a different OBGYN each pregnancy. When I went to my first appointment with this OBGYN I made him fully aware of the fact that I have had to be induced all three previous times and that I fully expected I would have to be with this one (I have very large babies). He was absolutely fine with it. In fact 2 visits ago he said he would probablely induce me around the 15th of March. At my last visit he did a sono and said the baby looked just about normal size (my last daughter looked to be 7 lbs on the sono right before they induced me and she turned out to be 8lbs8oz and that was at 38 weeks). After he told me this he started asking about how my

delivery went with my largest child (9lbs 3 3/4oz). And he didn't seem the least bit concerned that that one almost ended in a C Section (which I absolutely do not want because I absolutely WILL NOT get an epidural). And then he goes on to tell me that he won't induce before 39 weeks anyway because the baby's lungs won't be developed enough (complete BS) before then. And THEN, heres the fun part, he tells me that he and his wife (the other dr in this practice) are going on vacation from the 15 to the 25. That's right, that means he won't even be back in time to induce me a week early. Now am I wrong in expecting my doctors care? He waited until I was past the point that any other OB would see me (32 weeks) to tell me all of this. How do I approach this issue with him and do you think it will do any good. Does anyone have any other ideas?

Answer 1

congrats on your baby!

I would express your concerns again to your doctor. I have also had problems with doctors and my pregnancies and i make it well known, i will find another OBGYN within a week no matter how close i am to delivering. If you wont listen to me, i will find someone who will. This time i found a doctor who listens to me and actually looked at my past history. I liked her because she saw my history and put me in the high risk catagory on my first appointment at 4 weeks. (i like her very much and we have not had any problems)


and you are pregnant. you dont have to be nice ;) lol

Answer 2

That is very common with doctors. They truelly believe what the computer says. I know my doctor had told me that my son would be only about 7 lbs and he turned out to be 8 lbs 2 oz. but it was ok because I had to go c-section anyways. Just tell the doctor exactly what you told us. Sometimes it helped to get a little bit upset (not a lot) to get your point across. Hang in there and just be HONEST

Answer 3

I dont have any great advice other than to just tell him you want to be induced, and that is the end of the story.

But you do know that you can have a C-section without an epidural right? They can put you under in twilight anethesia which has very very little side effects.

Answer 4

I had the same problem about nine months ago my birthing experience was not good i should have been high risk i kept talking and talking,finally i just lost it sometimes unfortunately you have to do this to get their attention if you have anotheer doctor in the practice liuke an associate talk to them its your right make yourself be heard.who cares anymore if your not so polite doctors always think your hormonal and dont want to listnen,

Answer 5

Difficult question because I lean towards agreeing with your doctor.

See http://parenting.ivillage.com/pregnancy/plabor/0,,8nbq,00.html
(for a start).

Most doctors are far too induction-happy; I'd be relieved to find one who wasn't.

But, it is your body. If you really want an induction (for reasons I don't understand), make a convincing case for it. You just need to adequately address his concerns; find research, if there is any, that says what you want to do is a good idea, and present it to him.