ok, so i can't say i really have a best friend or anything like that because I have high standards when it comes to determening who that is and a perfect situation for that is always when things are not that easy. now i'm learning not to depend on anyone on absolutely anything because it gets me down when i realize what i didn't want to. acquaintances are fine, i have those, but friends in the real sense of the word, i do not have.
2007-02-26 03:27:35 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i give, that's not it...
2007-02-26 03:34:08 · update #1
Learning how to not depend on others and to be alone is not a bad thing in the short-term. Just be careful you do not close your heart. Once you close it, it's easy to get used to that - and let it stay closed. You may pay a heavy price for that later on.
You mention "high standards" and a "perfect situation"... perhaps you are asking for too much perfection from friends.
People walk out because they can no longer get what they want from a particular person. And you know what people usually want? Passion. Inspiration. Excitement. Joy. Love. Happiness. etc. They keep expecting & looking for these things in other people - never realizing that the Source of these things is inside themselves. And because of this, they are Lost.
So when they walk out, this does NOT mean the person left behind is unloveable, even though it feels that way.
What is the love of your life? (I don't mean a person.) Go with the love inside your heart, and follow it wherever it takes you. The more you have love inside your heart and life (it is possible to have these without relationships), the more you will attract others who will love you (friends/lovers). You will definitely meet friends doing what you love, because love is about sharing. Share the love of your life with other people and the world. There are many much less fortunate than you who would be very grateful for your love.
This is what the first answerer meant about, "What you need to receive, you need to give." Giving to those who expect it, or giving in order to receive from a lover, that is not pure giving. It is better to give to those who are not expecting your gift, and for which you expect no return or reward. That is the kind of love you may need to give - and that is the love you would wish unto yourself.
The Source of Love is You.
2007-02-26 07:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU will live a life that is empty to constantly
let NOONE Into you life..'Its easier to just always be on the periphery.. but you do not experience the true richness in life unless you take risks..
One never gets used ot people walk out of their life .. especially if you felt close to that person..
We r all different..understanding this will help you to explore relationships to the fullest..YOU cant live your life alone
2007-02-26 03:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋