k well not literally..my partner cheated on me for 2 yrs, we come frm a muslim bkground so i sometimes feel like he is just with me to keep the family happy, wel i found out he fell in love with this girl and was cheatin on me with her for 2 yrs.wen i confronted him he swore from then on he wouldnt stay in contact with her..recently i found on his phone txts frm him to her sayin he loves her so much and the same frm him to her..y he doing this? he says he loves me..anyway i took his phone off him and everyday last week i found anothr phne on him n took it off him evryday.so evryday he was buyin a phone(jst a cheap 1) just 2 keep in contact with her..he told me he doesnt like nt havin a phne and denied speakin with her but again i found txts on these phones.ive jst had a baby and dnt knw what to do cos he says he loves me..as a muslim girl noone will take me on with a baby its basically imposible.if he bought a phoneeveryday does that mean he will always find a way of contacting her??
2007-02-26 03:17:52 · 14 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'r e not going to change who he is. Unfortunately it's in his nature.
Any chance of losing the 'muslim' thing? It doesn't seem to be doing you any favors.
2007-02-26 03:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your story, was yours an arranged marriage? Well seems like whatever you do is not stopping him from seeing his girlfriend, so do you really want to live in such an abusive relationship. Why do you want to follow a religion that treats women like a second grade citizen and makes woman fearful of getting a divorce make her feel like an outcast for leaving her cheating husband. A religion that make men feel he can abuse his wife and she cannot do anything about it, because no one else will take her. Think about it, you are better off living as a non muslim and not have to be a hypocrite raising your child. God made everyone equal, its religion that makes us different. Its you who hold the key to your future don't let your religion hold you back. All you need to do is have faith in God and not a man made religion. Good luck
2007-02-26 11:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing these games with him. What a joke he is. You have a child, and he is acting like a child. Give him the boot. Don't worry a real man will take you and your baby, and treat you with the love and respect you deserve. But before that happens you need to take care of yourself and mend your heart. After a few months, your family can help care for the baby and you can get a job. Things will start looking up for you. Take Care.
2007-02-26 11:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where do you live ?I'm a Muslim too but I never faced the things that you said you may live.Being Muslim doesn't mean that you can't have a life or you don't have a right to make wrong decisions.You have to face the truth that he's not devoted to you.he is cheating on you over and over again.why do you do this to yourself.be strong nobody will kill you if you break up with him.your family must understand what you're going through.be honest to yourself.I understand it that's not easy to be in such a mess but taking his phone is not a solution.as you said he buys new one everyday that means he wants to keep in touch with that girl.he is lying to you can't you see...don't make him use you.you say you have a baby are you married with this guy?if not how can you have a baby ,wasn't it a problem because you're Muslim?I think you need to make up your mind but you are afraid and you need to blame someone or something because you are too week to have your own responsibility.get yourself together and be honest to yourself.truth hurts sometimes.be brave.
2007-02-26 11:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believed the Muslim can have more than one woman?, and i mean not necessarily a wife, so what is the problem then, not that Muslim women are happy with their lives, or is it that actually Muslin women do not like the deal the got due to religious motives?
Yes he is cheating on you because that's what Muslin men do normally as a right.
2007-02-26 11:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mark N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. Don't stay with him. Life is way too short and no matter what you can forgive but not forget. You will never trust him. I would think even if you are muslim your child doesn't deserve that. He is selfish and not thinking about you and your family. There are good men out there don't let him continue to do this to you. Maybe kick him out and let him make the decision as to whether he loves you more or her. Good luck.
2007-02-26 11:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Laura B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darlin . ..i feel sorry for you and the position your in facin this situation ...you husband is a scum ...is he with you the fact you will take him to heaven cause you muslim ...keepin you happy dont mean luvin someone else ...many problems in arrange marridge too...the thing is he can marry up 2 5 times as long as he can keep em all equal ...it is really sad why he is doing this ...why not tell you the truth from the begginin before you had a baby .. dont worry god is always watching ..you will have to put up with this until judgement day comes...as far as i know your goin to heaven while he's goin to hell with that women he is luvin ...everyone makes mistakes they cannot see until they are revealed he is a liar n a heartbreakin a.sshole !!! pray to god n find happyness one day your baby will find out the truth but doesnt mean he gets spoiled for an unperfect family luv your baby the most cause thats all you have now forget your husband keep him lookin after you while he's around n then leave him when you feel he's nuthin no more .. ..its sad it really is ...unless you can make him luv you to break the spell he's under fallin for a hoe !!!
2007-02-26 11:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry,but you need to get out ASAP, he obviously doesn't love you or he wouldn't cheat would he? I know a few Muslim girls with babies,some from separated relationships and other were single parents they ALL found someone else, don't even worry about it,move on and move up :)
2007-02-26 11:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Diablodood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is contact this girl that is calling him and tell her who you are and that you and him just had a baby. Maybe she isn't aware he is married and/or a family man. Taking his cell and him buying others is not stopping him contacting her. You have rights as the wife, I'd exercise those rights if I were you
2007-02-26 11:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for sure this guy is n love with this girl. you probably came in to fill the gap and .......oooooops - pregancy. talk with him and probably arrange a meeting with your oldies to talk things over. I'm afraid this would change things - because love stems from the heart and the heart of men............... who knows! God help u.
2007-03-02 04:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by oshokhameye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋