This is in the context of the changing social scenario due to globalisation and advent of modern technology and fast and modern life style. In most of the houses both husband and wife have to work, and at the same time are required to look after the needs of the elders and the infirm members in the family. In the Indian society the concept of admitting aged parents in the elders' home is not yet widely accepted yet. Your comments...
2007-02-26 03:12:23 · 9 answers · asked by Avinash V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
becuase the concept is really stupid, it's not widely accepted in the country. I mean what the hell is this. You throw off something out of your house bacause you don't have enough time for it. Why don't they consider hiring a nurse for those old parents. Thse old people are the most lonely ones. They are the ones who require attention. Separating from them just multiplies their problems.
I mean what the hell are we heading upto? we don't care about relationships anymore. But yes, when it comes to partnership with opposite sex, we give a hell lot of importance to it. Is it that we have become a lot more selfish?
In India you are required to pay back for efforts that people around put in for your prosperity. parents are the ones who sacrifice the most. Can't you sacrifice a little bit for them. All they are asking for is your time. That too just a little bit.
The fact is that people don't separate from their parents because they don't have time or they have to take care of a hell lot of other affairs. It is because they want privacy. They don't want anyone to disturb their private life. All of sudden, after one's marraige, parents are excluded from your set of privacy zone. Else why do you think that a guy whoi hasn't married at the untill the age of 35 stays with his parents, but a married guy at the age 25 would think of separating. Lifestyle is jsut a dumb reason. The fact is quite different. How do you think, that addition of a person in your family disturbs the whole scenario suddenly? All of a sudden, how does your lifestyle changes to a busy lifestyle that you have to throw two people out of your house?
For heavens sake, don't follow the west, follow your heart...
May god bless you...
:-)
2007-02-27 02:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a joint family the girl will have to bear a lot of problems. It will depend upon her patience.
I know a couple (with a baby), who moved out of their parent's lavish bungalow to a middle class apartment because the parents wanted the Air-conditioner cool. New born baby could not bear, the cold and would shiver.
Every family will have one or the other problem, like this , in these modern days.
2007-02-26 04:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are merits and demerits of getting married in a joint family. It depends on the family you are going to go in. Sometimes, it is the other family members who create quarrels between husband and wife which leads to break up and on the other hand there are still some good people in this world, who, patch up with husband and wife, when they are about to break up. Secondly, kids are looked after well, even in our absence on the other hand if the other kids are spoilt, ours also may spoil. so basically, I mean to say it all depends on the family you have to stay with, it does not matter if its a joint family or not.
2007-02-26 03:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell its wrong they took care of you I could never be that mean to my parents they gave up a lot for they deserve the same but I also fell you shouldn't have kids if one parent not willing to stay home with the kids I am 23 and I have two kids who have never been thrown into daycare were they never get attention the say thing goes for nursing homes you should not throw the people you say you LOVE into a nursing home
2007-02-26 03:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some consider inlaws as unwanted burden and try to get rid of it by separating husbands from inlaws. Obedient faithful husbands comply with wives' instructions and abandon/neglect parents, ignoring that their children will also follow them and behave/treat likewise when married.
2007-02-26 07:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Troubles starting in the family.
2007-02-26 03:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Expression 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Avinash....I am a very modern woman but still i want to surround myself with my family it means i love to live in a joint family because i like there company and i don't want to put my family away anywhere else in elders home.................
................regards pari..................
2007-02-26 04:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by pari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as there is space for everyone kool!!!
2007-02-26 03:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO A WAY OF DOING THAT THOUG SHE IS REALLY GOOD BUT SWEET CAN NEVER GO WITH THE BITTER.
2007-02-26 03:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by steffi221989 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋