I need some advice, I am a Transexual, I have been seeing a counciler for months now and my Dr to help sort myself out. All of which I have done in private. In order to move on I need to start telling people, but have no idea how to brouch the subject with my freinds? I also want to start living as a female in order to make transistion much easier in the future? But dont know where to start, I think that I look ok and dont dress over the top just normal, But when it comes to stepping outside the door I panic and cant do it! What are your thoughts? I cant carry on living like I am but really cant see a way forward?
2007-02-26 03:01:43 · 22 answers · asked by Demon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have to learn to accept yourself and be yourself. I guess this is not going to be any easy point for you. But be brave and talk to people if they are your freinds then they will understand accept and help you.
2007-02-26 03:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be least painful to do it in a similar way to removing a plaster - just rip it off and put up with the short lived intense pain.
I can't imagine what it must be like for you, but you know what you want to do, and who you want to be. I'd suggest just telling people - "I'm a transsexual, and from now on I will be living as a woman, please call me xyz". Blunt, yes, but it gets your message across.
Maybe once you've told a few people, you'll feel better about living like a woman?
Are you in contact with any other transsexuals? It may help to talk to people who have been through the same situation before, as it isn't really something that anyone who hasn't been through can totally understand.
Hope this helps, and how things go as you want. Remember that you are who you are, and you have every right to live as you want. It might take time, but all the valuable people in your life will come round to this.
2007-02-26 03:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you? What is holding you back? You made the change so you want this. Just put the clothes on and go, if you feel nervous just tell yourself that you will be OK and nothing will happen. You should also try and find a support group. Your most likely not the only who has had this problem. You could find out how other people did and handled this. Good luck and enjoy your new life!
2007-02-26 03:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to come to terms with yourself... Love yourself for who you are. This world is full of so many critics, dont be your own worst critic, someone else will do that. Step out that door and be a wall.. let whatever hits you bounce right off. I think if you leave as you want to leave you might see how uncomfortable you were leaving your home as someone else in your eyes.
Be what you want honey, this life is to short to be unhappy and God made you the way you are, and that is not bad or meant to be hidden. Show yourself to the world and love yourself.
2007-02-26 03:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by sara w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of gay transexual clubs I'm sure you would feel quite at home in.
However if you are trying to deceive the whole world you are thus sexually orientated I guess you will always continue to have panic attacks. People will always find you out, make jest or even discriminate.
If you keep your dressing up and sexual preferences to those people who are the same as you I think you will get on ok.
However men can be worst bitches than women - it's a fact.
2007-02-26 03:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jewel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not being i a situ like yours Im not sure whether this will help but I would suggest choosing your closest and most understanding friend first and telling them. Gauge their reaction and go from there. As for going out, why not go somewhere you are not known before you start walking about near your home then you wont be recognised. This will be easier and give you the confidence you obviously need.
I wish you well anyway.
2007-02-26 03:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to live as someone of the opposite sex you are gonna have to take the leap. start with a short journey some where close so that if you panic you can get home quickly. tell your friends a couple at a time after a few drinks to help you relax.
its always going to be hard, telling friends you really want to be a member of the opposite sex, its not something that comes up everyday.
good luck
2007-02-26 03:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If were you I would just start off going out at night and maybe not to public place more to like a friends house a a small gathering they my be having like a BBQ after you tell your friends first...take baby step maybe sit out side your back yard all dress up, don't just jump into action be careful and play it safe I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-02-26 03:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your close friends will already know, or at least they will have some idea that something is going on. Broach the subject matter-of-factly with your closest friend in private, then once he or she is on board it will be easier for you to go out dressed in the knowledge that someone is on your side. Your true friends like YOU, not the clothes that you wear.
2007-02-26 08:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cleast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really seeing a doctor and counselor, this question should never have come up in a public forum. You are either 1) not serious or 2) need more discussions with your doctor and counselor or 3) need a new doctor and counselor.
This subject is covered under any serious pre-op TS counseling. Claiming you don;t know where to start is saying you are not paying attention to what your doctor and counselor are telling you.
2007-02-26 06:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by sapphire 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are what you are...and nobody can change it...including your self. Follow your instincts and abilities and become who you want tobe. Going to Councelors is waste of time and money...just remember councelors do n't have perfect lifes either so if they can't solve their own problems how they can cover and solve all your problems...One thing you have to learn...learn to choose your own friends...and stay away from the homofovics and religious fanatics...these people they don't want to help you...they will try to destroy you mentaly and phisically. So keep smilling...do what you have to do to be yourself...and who does n't like it...the answer is very simple ...this individual does n't have to live your life or associate with you.- the sea has a lot more fish ...than the ones that will critisize you and hate you.
2007-02-26 05:55:27 · answer #11 · answered by nikitasgarofallou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋