We are the perfect match in everything we do. We realized our emotional envolvement about 2 months ago.Neither one of us wants to hurt anyone.He has a child with his wife, but never felt like this before with anyone. We can't breath without each other.What should we do?
2007-02-26 03:01:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Out of respect for his relationship you cannot do anything right now. Don't even think about it. If he is truly your best friend then you will want what is best for him even if it is not what is best for you. So until he comes to his own conclusion you cannot do anything more than sit by being the best friend you can be and support whatever decision he makes.
If it is truly meant to be, then he will realize it as well and take the appropriate steps to do what is right for his wife and baby before he starts to think about a life with you.
Whatever you do, don't start an affair! You will lose your best friend for sure and it is better to have that special someone in your life even if it is only platonic then to not have him at all.
2007-02-26 03:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the emotions in the situation are getting a little too intense. People can be married and develop strong feelings for another person...this happens when a marriage becomes weak and the person becomes needy. What you do next will decide to what extent you can be trusted to develop relationships that will last, that respect boundaries and commitments. If you steal him away, it will show great disdain for your partner and the commitments he has made, and it will also show contempt for his child, whose world will come crashing down if you go through with it. Treat the situation with class and dignity, and allow him to decide for himself independent of you whether his marriage and his child are worth saving. Good luck!
2007-02-26 03:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you're doing is hurting people whether you want it to or not. It is hurting his wife and child in the long run. He is a married man who made a commitment. Tell him you cannot continue this relationship. If you do continue, you are looking at nothing but heartache in time.
2007-02-26 03:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, You guys just need to back up. He has a child, he's made a commitment and im sorry but you have no right to break that commitment he made to his wife. Your gonna ruin his childs life and his wifes. Anyway, if he can't stay commited to his wife what makes you think he'll stay commited to you? If your having sex with him then he's just in it for pu$$y. Open your eyes, wake up and smell the coffee. Plenty of fish in the sea....
2007-02-26 06:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your too late. He has a wife already. If you were in his wifes shoes would you want someone to break up your marriage? Think about. Also you have to think about the child involved. That childs happiness is more important than your feelings for one another.
2007-02-26 03:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by dolphinnut798 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OH my god! You're such a loser, not to mention homewrecker. Take you're azz to church you sinner. I'm not the most religious person on the planet, but I could have swore that there was a commandment that read something to the effect of "thall shalt not covet thy neighbors wife" or something like that. Believe it or not, that includes coveting thy neighbors husband as well. Get therapy and find your own man!
2007-02-26 03:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by mixedup 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not the perfect match in everything, mainly because he is matched to someone else..someone who he will forever be tied to one way or another with the child . what makes you think when he leaves her for you, that someday he wont leave you for the next one....or the next one,,,breakout of camelot, it is possible and even likely that there is many other people on this planet that you can love just as much as your buddy....just takes getting to know them as deeply~~~~~
2007-02-26 03:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by wild1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
End the friendship and walk away. He is married and has a child. You have absolutely no business being involved with this man!
2007-02-26 03:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are sailing in dangerous waters girlfriend..
cant breathe w/o each other? r u serious? sounds like a cheap romance novel to me...get over it, he's MARRIED..and sonce men and women can't just be friends, I would get away from that one if I were you. Love/sex is all hormones anyway...
2007-02-26 03:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by jipsyleo1967 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are waaaaayyyyyyyyy out of line.
you need to stay away from this friend that "you can't breath without" until he decides to divorce his wife, or that just makes you the disgusting other woman that is going to ruin lives.
and by the way, he probably won't divorce her for one reason and one reason only------ he breaths just fine without you.
2007-02-26 03:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋