I am with a man who started a custody case against his daughter's mother to get full or joint custody. The mother is of course saying that her daughter should not live with her father because of me. She told the court that I abuse my children which is not true. We just found out yesterday that everytime I correct her behavior her mother has her document it on a calendar to say that everytime she comes over she gets in trouble so she doesn't feel comfortable. I treat her daughter just as I treat my own. If she does something that she is not supposed to which is a lot just like my daughter they are 10 and 11, I let her know that it is not appropriate. I don't yell, curse or hit her, I redirect her behavior. Now she has stated to her father that I don't like her and I pick on her. Does anyone know how I can counter this calendar and these accusations against me?
2007-02-26 02:58:48 · 4 answers · asked by Marcella D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just tell the truth, and have your daughter start accounting for the times she gets into trouble. documentation is very important.
2007-02-26 03:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my it is going to get worse then this! There is nothing you can do, the mother is fighting for her kid. The man you are with started this and the mom is going to fight like crazy to keep her daughter.
She is using the kid which is not right, but the mother feels threatened. Her attorney might even be telling her to do this.
I do feel for you, but I understand what the mother is going through too. This is never a nice situation, on anyone. I am sure the dad knows this is going to get messy.....this is just the biggining......your life, your children's life are going to be looked at under a magnifying glass. Best not to have any secrets.....
Maybe the man you are with should have told you or looked into what happens in these cases before he filled? Good luck!
2007-02-26 03:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way for this "abuse" to come out in court in to have the mediator for the court talk to the children and then give a report to the judge. The term for what this woman is doing to the daughter is called Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). Have your lawyer look it up.
The mediator will determine if any harm has come to the kids during the reprimands.
2007-02-26 03:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is the child? I have a nine yr old I do not care for her stepmother but she just got of prison. Anyway my daughter just started going back to her dad's and he was always giving her; her way and I asked why. Well he was afraid that she would tell me bad things and she would cry and say she wanted to go home when she didn't get her way. I told him to sit down with her and explain the rules to her and let her know that's how it's going to be. If you let the child get away with everything they will not respect you. Let her Mother write down what ever she wants you are not doing anything wrong. I would suggest you and you're husband sit down with her and let her know how it is going to be when she is at you're house tell her the rules and what you expect of her. Maybe you should keep a journal yourself , what goes on, time and dates. She will play her parents against each other as long as they let her. I told my daughter she can't come home just because she doesn't get her way and when she is at her dad's house she has to follow her dad's and stepmom's rules. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 03:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋