I might be pregnant and I'm only 14, how do I tell my parents? I'm afraid that they will disown me?

Question

I might be pregnant and my parents don't allow me to be with my boyfriend. So how do I tell my parents that I might be pregant? They have a restraining order against him, so that he can't be around me. He knows and want to be there for me, but what can we do about the restraining order? I'm really afraid that they will kick me out of the house.

Answer 1

Stop and take a deep breath. You need to get into a pregnancy clinic and have a doctor look at you and find out for sure if your pregnant. From there you need to tell the boyfriend for sure. Then your parents. Because you are 14 you do have the option to go and talk to your school guidance advisor, or your school nurse. They can show you all your options.
Dont be worried about what your parents are going to do just yet, because you need to find out for sure. If you are they are going to be pretty upset, but they've already shown that they love you. They will be there to help you however the age of the boyfriend could get things a bit screwy. If hes 18, forget the restraining order- because they may press charges.
No matter how old you are its always hard telling your parents. For me, even being married my mother-in-law fliped. Yet my grandparents were happy for my husband and I. I must say however, really think about the options you are given, before you make a decision. Abortion is not something to be taken lightly. If possible try to research all options before you make a decision. Because once you make it and follow it thru, theres no going back. I dont agree with abortion, but because of your age, you may not have a say so. Take care of yourself and your unborn baby, starting NOW. Dont wait until you know what your parents or even you are going to do. If you are pregnant, you do need to realize that you laid in that bed, now you gotta make it. Dont take the easy way out. Take care of the baby or let someone else. Afterwards you need to start takeing care of you and stop having sex. You are young and need to enjoy being young while you can.
Whatever you do, dont lie to them. Be honest!! Take care, and think before you make your decisions! Many Prayers!!!

Answer 2

I don't know what to do about the restraining order but I might can help a little with the other. I know that you are scared to tell your parents but you have to do it. They are going to be irate at first but that would be most parents reaction. I was scared to tell my parents when I got pregnant and I'm married. That fear is normal. Your parents cannot kick you out of the house until you are 18. You will have to support your child and I'm sure they will help after the initial shock wears off. And sweetie if you are having sex at 14 and not using protection then that's just asking for trouble. Not just pregnancy but std's. I hope everything works out for you and I hope for your sake that your not pregnant. You are so young and you need to live your life before becoming a mother.

Answer 3

You should have listened to them in the first place. They could only have a restraining order if your boyfriend REALLY is a bad guy. The courts don't just hand them out like candy.

Your parents love you and are trying to protect you from being hurt. You are FAR too young to be having sex, even a boyfriend.

Tell your mother. You need to find out, there are serious health concerns. Do NOT sneak around and kill a baby behind your parents back. Abortions are dangereous procedures and girls DIE from them. Your parents need to know that you have done this so they can watch over you and make sure nothing is going wrong.

You are making some very bad choices, you really need to talk to your mother and get some guidance.

Answer 4

I would buy a pregnancy test first. Don't take it at home. Go over a friends house or at school. If it does come out positive tell your boyfriend. If you are tell someone close about it. So that you can get the correct care for your baby. If your parents love you they shouldn't kick u out of the house. They might be upset with you but they will have to deal with it. Also if you are pregnant and you want to keep the baby stand up for your rights and your parents can't force u to have an abortion.

Answer 5

I just have a quick question for you though. Were u emotionally ready to be sexually active? U may have been physically ready because your hormones are raging at that age. I no ur thinking uh just another adult who thinks they no everything but im only 15 I just no this stuff because my mom & I discuss the consequenses because my mom is a nurse and she sees that stuff all the time. 1 of my friends had a pregnancy scare last year but she took the EPT and was negative. If u r smart enough 2 b havin sex ur smart enough 2 b on birth control. But birth control is not 100% effective so use a condom 2. u should always set a boundry w/ ur boyfriend like me & my bf r waiting a year before having sex cuz we also want 2 make sure we want 2 lose our virginity to each other. But ya take a test and if u r positive tell ur mom she loves u and she will be very mad but she will still love u good luck

Answer 6

Why in the world would you at the age of 14 be having sex? Why do you find it necessary? If you are pregnant you have a responsibility to that baby to tell your parents because believe me, you need all the support you can get. Your parents are genuinly concerned about your welfare to have a restraining order on your boyfriend. How can he be there for you when like you he was irresponsible and got the two of you in this situation. Please, you have to tell your parents. They will be angry to start with but they may also be supportive and that is what you need.

Answer 7

They're not going to kick you out. But why do your parents have a restraining order against your boyfriend? I wouldn't worry too much about that because I'm sure he's going to pull a disappearing act any minute now. You need your parents right now. They are going to be upset with you, but tell them, the sooner the better.

Answer 8

First things first.

Take a deep breath.

Now, determine for sure if you are pregnant. Go out and get a pregnancy test (preferably two). Follow the directions and if you get two negatives, then you are most likely not pregnant. If you get two positives, or a mixed result, then go to a doctor (walk in clinic, etc) and make absolutely sure one way or the other.

If you aren't pregnant then you don't have anything to worry about (yet).

If you are actually pregnant, then your best bet is going to be telling your parents the truth. They might not like it, but trying to hide it is just going to make it worse. The decision of what to do next is up to you. If for some reason they are totally irrational about it, or try to force you into making a decision you don't want to make, then you might need to look into other options to get out of the situation.

You can keep the child, and possibly get yourself emancipated from your parents. Depending on how supportive your boyfriend is, then you might be able to do allright. It will take a lot of hard work and devotion, and you aren't gauranteed any great success, but getting to see your child grow is its own reward.

You can also give birth and put the child up for adoption. Since you are young, and neither you or your boyfriend are probably really ready to handle starting a family, then this gives you another viable option.

Finally, you have the option to terminate the pregnancy. I'm not religious, and I fully support a womans right to make that choice since there are already plenty of unwanted children in the world, however most women that I've known who have had abortions (none because of me thankfully) have feelings of loss and regret for a long time afterward (probably dependent partly on their beliefs and upbringing).

Good luck. I hope you aren't pregnant, but if you are, then I hope you make the right choice for your situation.

And if you aren't pregnant, you need to start taking steps towards making sure you don't become pregnant. If your boyfriend won't use protection, then you might need to figure out a way to get on birth control.

Answer 9

first, find out if you are pregnant or not
second, why have your parents thought it necessary to get a restraining order? think about it
third, why are you seeing this boy behind your parents back? you are only 14 and whatever rules they have set for you must be in your own interest
fourth, if you are pregnant, your parents will not disown you, they may be dissappointed and angry at first, but i would be too in this situation, a teenage pregnancy is generally not a good scenario
fifth, have you really thought about the consequences of being a mother?

Answer 10

At 14, if you are kicked out of the house, your parents will be held responsible for child endangerment and neglect!
If they have gone to the trouble of going to court to get a restraining order on your bf...honey they LOVE you!!
Sure they will be hurt, but you REALLY need to tell them, especially at 14 you need to see a doctor as soon as possible, your body is still growing, and if you are pregnant, you are responsible for taking extra care of yourself for your baby!
Please don't think that having a baby will make a difference in the restraining order, a judge will just see that if this guy was SO irresponsible that he would impregnate a child, he is a risk, and not safe for you to be around! So don't try to get pregnant thinking that it will help you be able to see him, that will backfire on you bad...plus if he is much older than you he can go to JAIL!

So, tell the parental figures, and get to a doctor asap....best of luck to you and the whole situation..