I am married for 2 years to a man who is perfect in everthing, Good looking, Good career, very big, can hold long time have no medical problem and treats me wonderfully and is crazy in love with me. We both are in early 30s. The only problem is that he does not know what to do once inside me. And sex is really bad. He just cannot move in and out like the way men do. its an effort for him and he knows that. Sometimes he gets insecure about me cheating on him. So he tries to avoid sex altogether. On the other hand I am highly sexual individual, very attractive and young. We have perfect communication and I told him several time with love what I miss. He tried teaching him about what I like and still trying. I get a lot of attention from men and keep them away but secretly fantasize about having crazy day n night sex. But I love my hubby so I keep to myself and please myself. But I can't thing anything else than sex and really obssessed with it. PLEASE advice.
2007-02-26 02:51:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would try counseling. Don't cheat etc. .He just has to be educated in that dept. Take the initiative and start the foreplay.. etc. Get some educational video's on technique.. They don't have to be pornographic.
2007-02-26 02:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your placing too much emphases on the physical rather than the emotional side of intimacy. I was a virgin when I got married, my husband had inappropriate sex in a cat house one time (got a disease) so both of us were at a loss as to experience. But we learned how to please each other, it took time and patience, I was more of a quicker learner than he was and often I seemed frustrated with his lack of initiative or exploring and I was always ready where he wanted to relax or do other things. Little by little we worked it out, I too often satisfied myself but I loved him and only him, I can't ever remember wanting anyone else to share my bed with. If you truly love him then try some counseling if you've tried everything else, it could be a medical problem rather than an emotional problem with him.
2007-02-26 03:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say get on top! You must have made him feel really insecure about sex if he wont have it anymore. That must take a lot. I think you need to keep up the training and practice and if you love him it doesnt matter how long it takes. You give him the reason to feel like you are going to cheat on him . You sound like a guy!!
2007-02-26 03:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world everything would be perfect, but sadly we all fall short of something. Seems like you have a great guy and your willingness to work it out make yours a great marriage. I think you both need to seek help from a sex therapist. Great lovers are not born, but made... Practice and patience makes perfect, so keep at it and good luck.
2007-02-26 03:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about you riding top. That way all your pleasure is in your control. Guys like that too. Hey there are many other ways to enjoy sex with your hubby. You are putting all the pressure on him to perform and making him feel bad about himself. What about you? Stop talking and start moving.
2007-02-26 02:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to go through life missing out on good sex? It doesn't sound like it.
What's the problem, does he not ahave any interest in being good at sex? If so, then things aren't likely to improve. If he is interested then he needs to put himself in your hands, and let you teach him how to pleassure you.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 04:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this problem won't be solved overnight so be patient. it's my personal opinion that most men are very uncomfortable talking about what they need/want or what we need/want in bed. don't give up. he loves you & you love him & you both want this thing to work-that will get you through.
try you on top - then you're more in control of what's happening. and never ever stop communicating. also, if you're a Christian, pray about this. God will help you (even with this). He doesn't want us to be unhappy in our marriage. remember he is the one who designed the marriage union.
2007-02-26 03:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Debra T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a sex counselor..... or you get on top. find the positions that put you in control the most.
but really i can't understand why he can't get some rhythm.... it doesn't take much to have sex.
well anyway, just keep trying. don't cheat on him or do something you would regret. and the sex counselor might be able to really help, so look into that.
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2007-02-26 03:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh* In a world of perfect, you've found out that it seldom is.
That is, perfect. You BOTH need some counceling. Soon.
I believe you both can make it work if you work together.
2007-02-26 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him. This is a problem that can be fixed. It is not a charcter flaw.
2007-02-26 02:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋