did my fiancee cheat??

Question

I recently found out that my fiancee has had a thing going on for a few months with someone from her work, but to her credit she admitted it to me. However she says she did not have sex with him, all that happened is that he went down on her several times, but she swears she did not touch him. The thing is I never go down on her, I just dont like to do that, and she says she is very sorry but she just wanted to experience oral sex on her, instead of only giving it. She says the other guy is really into giving oral and good at it, and he offered and she couldnt resist. I understand how she felt, but I think she should have told me how important it was. The wedding is still planned, but the idea that she orgasmed with another man makes me jealous...but I dont think she really cheated so I shouldnt end it should I??

Answer 1

She just have you the SIGNS that she is not commited. She thought of another man and she was interested in another man. That should be enough reason not to trust her and dump her. You dont need an unfaithful person.

Answer 2

If you are wanting to go ahead with the wedding and everything, that's fine.. it's up to you.

However..

How can you, with that information, have to question whether or not she cheated??? She was with another man sexually (whether or not she "did anything" to him is beside the point), and that is cheating, without a doubt.

If you are going to forgive her, and move on with your life together, then that's all fine and lovely.. but don't let her talk you into believing that it wasn't cheating simply because he was the one doing stuff.. That's messed up.

So, if you can truly forgive her for cheating on you, and really put it behind you.. then go for it. But if you even halfway wonder if she'll do it again, then you need to at least call off the wedding.. for now.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Oral sex is sex and that's cheating. She is unable to resist temptations and be faithful to you. So, you should call off the wedding, or at least postpone it for several months until you can get to a point where you will be assured that she has the capability of being faithful. You should demand proof that she won't do anything like this ever again.

Answer 4

Whats gonna happen when u just don't feel like having s**? Wouldnt u be worried that she might feel like she needs to go to someone else? What if they actually did more than what she is telling u? Did they use protection? These questions would really drive me crazy. Before u get married i suggest that u deal with these issues. You dont want to start ur marriage off on bad terms. Plus its better u find out if u can deal with it now than feeling like u cant later and having to get a divorce.

Answer 5

this is hard to say but she cheated on you man... it takes alot of courage for her to admit it but she hurt you the worst way possible man and you were about to spend the rest of your life with her... you don't know if this is all she did or if it ended there... and if you do take her back how do youu know this will never happen again... forget all that love crap people are going to tell you because if she loved you, this would've have never happend... the fact that you wont do down on her shouldn't have made her turn to another man, otherwise alot of men would be cheated on including me... Leave her man, you don't need her

Answer 6

u will have to get over how u feel about giving oral to her. she gives it to u and u should to her also. she may have not known how she felt about it until she experienced it. just be open to the oral thing with her since u know she likes it. since she was honest she does deserve another chance. providing this was the first time she did this. what she may have felt was a lust thing, and not love. give her another chance.

Answer 7

You don't think she cheated? You really need to re-think your relationship with her, because she most definitely cheated on you! She allowed him to perform a sexual act on her, and I don't believe she didn't return the favor. Even if she didn't, the other guy was very intimate with her. Wake up! You need to find a woman deserving of your trust, and love. Good luck!

Answer 8

i does not be attempting to make any toddlers with him till he gained returned one hundred% of my have confidence. i'd additionally delay the marriage till he gained returned one hundred% of my have confidence. ok, certainly, i'd maximum in all probability be long previous the 2d i found out he cheated. That stated, one in each and every of my buddy's husband cheated and alter into so remorseful and grew to alter into such an open e book and manned up whilst she expressed her harm to rebuild her have confidence that they have got been able to rebound closer than ever. whether, i think of that kind of a narrative is extra an exception particularly than the guideline.

Answer 9

Well you believe in receiving and not giving, so she went to someone who gave her without receiving.... anyway the point is you did not keep you woman happy and satisfied so she when to find satisfaction on her own. And if you keep the same attitude about going down on here, she will keep finding it on her own. So you have two option, either leave her and move on, or change your attitude and start liking it.

Answer 10

lol. You have to be one of the few guys under 50 who are not doing everything to make ur gal happy. Regardless of that, when you are married and she says I have never experienced a ________ penis before so I tried one. Or I have never experienced ___________ before so I tried it. It is not really cheating because I just had to find out. Tell her to get the ____ out of your life.