My husband is terrbile with money! He nickel and dimes us to death, and it is killing us financially. He wants to be responsible for the bills, but he doesn't pay them on time. I work full-time as well, so I am contributing a large amount of income to our household. I feel like I have tried everything! He won't give me his checks so I can pay the bills, we have tried sitting down together twice a month to go over the bills, but we end up fighting because he has spent so much. I'm just hoping for some suggestions on how to make this work? Is there anyone else dealing with this issue?
2007-02-26 01:55:23 · 14 answers · asked by Kailey 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have tried seperate accounts! I was paying the mortgage, car payments and groceries, he was suppose to pay everything else. Our phone got shut off, our credit took a hit because he didn't pay the credit card bill, and our electricity was shut off!! I have four kids!! I need him to be more responsible!!
2007-02-26 02:06:50 · update #1
I've been there and done that ! So, for your answer without telling you my story.... I left and reconciled with a strong understanding that he wasn't forgiven. It is a test trial period that lasts for a yr. If he can prove himself in a yrs time then he'd be forgiven of all that he'd done, but until then... he has to watch his p's and q's..... Right now.. he's at a 50-50... I wish u the best of luck !!
2007-02-26 03:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Being totally mismatched about money issues is quite common. But you do need to work this out.
You might try dividing the bills- his and hers. As for the "fights" because he has spent so much try a different approach than nagging or fighting. Let him take the calls from the creditors and don't bail him out when he comes up short on his end. Grit your teeth and ride it out. When he has enough consequences he will change his behavior. However, it will have an adverse affect on YOUR credit as you are married.
Good luck.
Peace.
2007-02-26 10:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this has nothing to do with money, but irresponsiblity and control; get a financial counselor, create a budget; have an account just for bills; have your own account and he can have his own account; figure out how much money you need to have in the account to pay the bills both of you contribute to that; then what you have left is what you get to spend or save as you see fit
2007-02-26 10:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, Bill Gates and Warrent Buffet are so irresponsible with money.
Geez.
That's why all the top billionaires are women and not men: men spend all their money on shoes. Pathetic. Your problem is not everybody else's problem. Learn how to ask a question.
Let me guess, you and your husband have "communication problems", and you say it's HIM that can't communicate?
2007-02-26 10:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a sign of one of two things. He is in drugs or he is cheating on you and giving his money to another woman. I don't think there is anything more importan to anybody (or at least I think so) than family. If he does not see that he is hurting his family then he has to be using that money for drugs or the other woman is really giving him the sex you are not. Please talk to him and find out not for him, not for you for your family
2007-02-26 10:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Juan P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all of them are irresponsible with money i have 5 mans in my life . My Dad, Bro, Boss, Husband & friend, they all are the same to cope with it i take the accounting in my hand becoz u ever said it sid it are lie that women are bad at maths becoz i think they are one how take care of the finances will.
2007-02-26 10:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by simran 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all men but a lot of men are not good with money. They spend their money and then expect you to save yours in case something comes up. Next month spend all of your money except your bills so he can see what he is doing to you
2007-02-26 09:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My ex was the same way. He found out I didn't need his money as bad as he thought I did. I work and support myself. He's heavily in debt now and that is not my problem.
2007-02-26 10:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my wife is the problem always wanting to finance everything. check out dave ramsey.com he does financial seminars and has books and tapes
2007-02-26 10:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by shawn w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
separate accounts and split the bills if his part don't get paid, then he have to come begging you for money.
2007-02-26 10:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋