My ex is a heroin junkie. He has never paid a cent of child support. He has stolen from me and my son both more times than I can even count. Despite all this I have always allowed him to see his son every time he pops up (it should be said that our is is 12 and has no interest in his father. I have had to MAKE him spend time with his father).Also, his father was physically and mentally abusive during our marriage. Here is the question: I have decided that my ex cannot see our son until he takes me to court. And, if by some miracle he takes me court,I am going to ask for drug testing and monitored visit. So, am I being just a total *****? In my mind I am just protecting my son from a bad influence..but am I wrong?
2007-02-26 01:49:42 · 6 answers · asked by pepper_0713 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not trust this man with a dog let alone your son. Ask for the supervised visitations and drug testing.
2007-02-26 01:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU EVEN HAVE TO ASK! NO! You are being a mother. I don't think you will get anyone to say you are being a *****. 12 is a very impressionable age and if you did allow your ex to have any influence on your son, it probably wouldn't be good anyways. I think you are doing the right thing by taking him to court. I don't think a clean drug test is enough to allow him anything. He could quit just enough to come up clean couldn't he! Then what if he went right back to it! I would just say he is unfit and in more ways than one.
2007-02-26 02:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG can no longer have self assurance what that RE man or woman wrote!!! What a stupid man or woman she is take no word. you're being mature and responsible!!! must be perplexing in case you reside a truthful distance aside whilst she's older and going to college yet you fairly dont must be annoying abut that on the 2nd. i visit be shifting to England ( i'm in eire on the 2nd) and that i've got made arrangments that their father could have them the different weekend and interior the vacations. For the summer vacations i'm unlikely to be seeing them for 5-6 weeks. it extremely is going to be no longer undemanding being removed from them for see you later, yet such as you reported i comprehend they're going to risk-free and he's an ideas-blowing father, they might have a great time with him. All i can declare is supply it a bypass and notice how issues finally end up. Your mum and sister are in basic terms in touch reason they love you. And forget with reference to the stupid comments approximately no longer desiring your newborn and putting her up for adoption. Your no longer interior the incorrect what so ever, in basic terms reason others dont agree. She is your daughter and it is your selection the type you pick to rearrange visitation!!
2016-11-26 00:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't have allowed any visitation. You do need to go to court and request supervised visitation, and child support; you can ask for drug testing prior to all visitations.
2007-02-26 01:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You, my dear, are doing the right thing. Stick w/ it and don't let your guard down. Your son is not safe w/ someone who does things like that. Keep it up and believe in the voice w/ in yourself!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 02:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong about it
2007-02-26 01:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋