what can i tell my parents?...w/o them really knowing!?!?1?

Question

i've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and yes we have had sex....im still a teenager living with my parents....sometimes i feel like they dont accept him...my mom already sat me down and told me that "she didnt want me doing..what i have been doing".....when i asked her what she was talking about she said "you know what im referring to" and if she found actual proof she wouldnt let us be together anymore....i dont know if im lacking my use of my own kind of privacy...that im making it obvious that im sexually active....but i swore to her i wasnt......what could i do to sit her down herself....and convince her that im NOT sexually active....and to be a little more trustworthy and acceptant to my boyfriend, Joel?? Please Help...Desperate!

Answer 1

Are you asking how you can lie to your parents and get them to believe you?

You can't...they aren't as dumb as they seem to you.

Answer 2

I think that honesty is always the best policy. Your parents have your best interest in mind. You should tell your mom what you ARE doing she may have an open mind.

Also you can think of a very bad event( one much worse than being sexual active) and then tell her you are sexually active and in comparison it won't seem so bad and their relief will serve as a good ice breaker to healthy, honest loving conversation about a very big decision you have made in your life, one that definitely needs parental advice and guidance.

I think that sex should be reserved for marriage, true love waits.

Answer 3

You shouldnt lie to your parents. My mom caught me having sex (i lost my virginity at 14 and she found out because the police found out...jealous ex's suck), and instead of the huge blowout i expected to have with her, she took me to the doctor and said "you're going on birth control, because i know i cant stop you, but i can at least help you be safe." Talk to your mom. Explain to her that you know that she isnt crazy about Joel, but you are. And if she cant accept him, ask why. Try having a real conversation with her, and DONT LIE. when you break your parents trust, you will NEVER get it back. It can ruin the relationship you have with them, too.

Answer 4

well i think you should defintly think about the whole being sexually active...i was raised in a family that even dating wasn't aloud...and now that i'm older (almost 19) i know why and can completly understand...i have two friends i can think of off the top of my head and the both were/are sexually active...they've always told me they were jelous of the fact i was a virgin...you know i may be soundinglike your mom or even a pasture but i have 11 siblings and 8 of them are younger than me and if any of them had a boyfriend that couldn't wait till marriage i'd kill him...your virginity is the most precious gift to give to your future husband...trust me i have friends that would kill me if i ever gave that up...so be honest with your parnets and with yourself...does love really do that?? would it wait,,??

Answer 5

Well, I understand where ur comin from. Im 23, and I know what it feels like to want to tell your parents something but don't know how to. All I can say is, it's better to be completely honest with your parents. I know it sounds stupid, but you should still try to. And you should really consider re-evaluating your relationship with your boyfriend. If you guys are doing things with him that you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents about, then what does that show you about your relationship? You should definately set standards, boundaries....something! Yes, you have already done what you've done, but it's never too late to stop. It might feel like your lacking your privacy, but that's only because you know that you have something to hide. Trust me, if it weren't for your relationship going further than it should be, then you wouldn't feel so on "lock down", like everyone's in ur business. And yes, your parents are supposed to want to know how your life is, and what's new, what's going on...its their job! u can't criticize them for wanting to make sure that you don't do something you regret. It's a mother's worry to think she knows that her child is sexually active, but the child won't talk to her, just keeps lying. It's worse to lie. If you feel like things between you n ur bf are getting or have already gotten too heated, then you need ta "take a chill-pill" and get urself focused and under control, and maybe u'll even find a way to talk to ur mom. I can't tell you exactly how to talk to her because I don't know how your relationship is, but you have to find a way. and hun, I hate to burst ur lil' bubble but umm...ur mom will probably never be more "trustworthy and acceptant to ur bf"...its her job to be a mother and make sure that ur ok. so, don't take her being concerned as a lack of privacy, but more as a person who will always be there to have ur back and try to keep u from making unnecessary mistakes. that's a good thing, you should always cherish that. cuz one day, ull realize that life as you know it has just gone by too quickly. take it from someone who knows...enjoy ur childhood/teenage hood while you can, because b4 u know it, the world is going to start throwing responsibilities on you so quickly that u will wish there's someone to want to make sure that you're okay, and that you're safe. you will want that shoulder to lean on, and that mother to give you words of encouragement. You might not like her now, but respect her because she will always want to be there for u, even when ur bf might not.

Answer 6

a million. i found out at present that I could pay for my first semester of school out of pocket. 2. i'm not sure if i visit break up with my boyfriend. 3. I nevertheless have not got here upon appropriate finished time employment yet.

Answer 7

She knows because she was young once too, and she knows what teenagers get up to! There's no need to lie about it, what's the point when she already knows.

Answer 8

I agree wit da first 2 ppl. Dont lie 2 ur mom! U will regret if not now den later. Ur mom will always b ur best frend no mattr wut. Jus b honest wit her. N lying 2 ur mom ovr ur bf is so not worth it.